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  • In Denmark we quite happily pay a fuck tonne of tax but you get a lot of bang for your buck:

    you get money whether you’re a student, unemployed, to old or mentally/physically unwell to work, or one year after you’ve given birth. If you’re homeless you can get accommodation (not sure how this works though). Parents get some money for clothing and food for their kids until they turn 18. No free water though, but like clean tap water for 2 USD/ cubic metre so pretty affordable








  • djmikeale@feddit.dktome_irl@lemmy.worldMe_irl
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    20 days ago

    It’s ok. Your psychologist knows. We all have stuff we don’t want other people to know.

    The nice way of thinking about it is that you’re just not comfortable opening up yet, and that’s ok. Literally just say “there’s stuff I’m not comfortable sharing with you yet”, and then talk a bit about your feelings, and expectations.






  • I tried cognitive behavioural therapy which helped with a bunch of other stuff, but didn’t help me get to the root of my core challenges. I’m with one now which does the following (according to her website):

    Theoretically, I am grounded in the psychodynamic tradition and the neuroaffective understanding of attachment and emotional development.

    I realized the books I’ve read and got a lot out of may only exist in Danish: “Drop opdragelsen” and “derfor forelsker du dig aldrig i den forkerte”


  • I’ve been there. Reasons for this might be different depending on who you are. For me, I’d been hurt by the ones that I loved, and subconsciously put up a wall to protect myself so I was “prepared” in case I would get hurt again. On the flipside I also couldn’t be my most authentic self, so I felt a lot more distanced when being with friends and family. For me, a lot of talking, therapy, and books helped me tremendously, but I’m still on a journey.

    So yes, it’s normal, and it can get better.