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Cake day: September 6th, 2024

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  • It was sometimes a lack of communication, sometimes problems with our neurodivergences and how we understand relationships, etc…

    Most of them though were out of ignorance. I had a lot of toxic ways of talking or acting that had been normalized by everyone all my life, so I didn’t realise they were toxic. I’m still working on it now, and it’s better, but it has taken a lot of introspection and deconstruction.

    I think that one of the most important things polyamory has taught me is that nothing has to last forever. So now, I feel safe even if I fuck up , because I know that even if I lose my current relationship because of it I have done my best and learned from it, and keep learning in the future, without the need of breaking up on bad terms.

    Good luck! If you have any question I’m glad to help ^^.




  • Thank you so much for answering!

    I don’t really have any nerby, I have at most commercial flower stores, so I thought there might be some books or studies I could hold on until I’m closer to one.

    Two of my plants died because of the draining issue before I figured out what the problem was, and a couple just died because they’re annual and had already given fruit, so they are whithering (T_T my babys). As for the other ones, tomorrow I’ll upload some photos of them. I want to share them and I’m sure I can learn a thing or two about them from someone in this community ^^.












  • Hey! Almost two years into my first poly relationship with two other people. I went in when they had already been a couple for some years now, and that has brought some insecurities, but we’ve been able to talk through them.

    If you’re up to try, that’s great! But I have to warn you that there will be a lot of communication and misunderstandings, setting boundaries and constant work for you and your partners to be better people and better partners.

    For me it has been quite hard, because I:'very accidentally crossed boundaries through misunderstandings and that has brought a lot of harm, but I’ve also learned a lot and live them very much.

    Good luck on your journey and lots of love!