I realized I was absolutely trans under a month ago. From the different stories that everyone tells, everyone’s experience is different. I’ll share a few things that were meaningful to me and how I ended up personally realizing I am trans, but everyone is genuinely a unique person with their own path to find.
For a couple of wonderful general statements that I read elsewhere (recommend the gender dysphoria bible in the sidebar):
People who are completely 100% cis don’t usually worry about the idea that they might not be 100% cis. If the idea keeps sticking in your head, it is worth exploring it further.
Being a woman or a man or neither or both or anywhere on any gender spectrum does not require you to do anything. You can be a trans woman, or trans femme enby person, or anything, recognize it, and then do nothing. Sure, it is common for that recognition to spark a desire to change something, but you never have to, and NO step or change is required to be who you are. Try to take the worry over “what it means” out of your analysis, and just ask yourself what feels right. “What it means” is a much longer-term thing to sort through over time, and will likely change over time just like everyone does.
For me, the things that finally tipped me over the edge of realizing my transness about myself were:
Hopefully one of the journeys the community has posted about here will give you a place to start digging at the question until you feel comfortable with your answer. Also, basically everything I said above came from the gender dysphoria bible, so reading that and seeing if it resonates with something inside might be a good place to look - took me a couple of hours ish to read. Best of luck out there, stranger!
Hello friends, I read everything and thought about it and acted on it, and wanted to comment the resolution.
First, thank you all SO much for your care and advice! 🩵🏳️⚧️
I made a folder to drag the old pictures into, but I was still having trouble on the emotional side when I tried actually doing it. I talked to my partner about the struggle, and she offered to save then delete them for me, and then to go in and untag anything with my face. I gratefully accepted, and she did it. Problem solved (with help and extra steps)
Thank you all, wonderful humans!