As someone who has lives in the Netherlands, were iDeal (the less international predecessor of wero) has been available for years - yes it replaces it, so much.

And it feels easier and safer at the same time, when my banking app on the phone can just scan the QR code on the website and deal with that.

Every time I DO use paypal now, usually a foreign webshop, I get a little nervous if my account still works, because it’s been a year or so again.

This sounds like a mental trick to not get depressed about what happens in the USA

Half-assing in peace is utterly acceptable.

Presenting your stuff to the public and wanting validation for it, that’s where half-assing often isn’t enough.

After all, if you truly only want to to make something, you can never show it to anybody and never get negative feedback. The circle of life, hakuna matata

The code YOU run. If your code runs other code, that doesn’t fall under this.

“Don’t ride a car unless you know how driving a car works” doesn’t mean you need to understand the chemical composition of the metal in the motor parts

Well there’s no hyphen here, but a space.

And you should move that to a different spot

Whole asswater melon

I thought it was “[…] in matters of taste”. As in, if you want to buy this ugly thing, we will gladly take your money for it.

• put in effort: you’ve put SOME effort into it, but evidently not enough to get a life partner. There are other people who DO go further than you, and have life partners. Can’t have your cake and eat it too.
• make peace with it: Technically giving up means the battle is over, thus you have “made peace”. Usually people understand it as leaving a situation WITHOUT it making you bitter, though - and that’s how I meant it, too.
• live a bitter life: Yes. This one is your choice. Not the other 2.

In the end relationships are A LOT of work, even before they start; and paying that price is simply not for everybody.

So… no human contact, then?

If people who don’t use too much internet are mystical creatures for you, then you are already in very deep. Join a club, go to meetups, anything where you interact with people non digitally, or you will become a very bitter, caustic person. The signs are already there in your replies, but the ball is in your court, and you are responsible to take action if you don’t want that.

Oh good, so all I have to do is date someone who isn’t interested in dating?

No, it means statistically you’ll need to try with more than 2 people to find a “good” person - because even if the split was 50/50 in the beginning, the easy going people are leaving the dating pool faster in comparison.

Nobody says you NEED to date, but you don’t radiate any kind of gracious “eh, dating is just not for me” attitude. Instead you seem quite bitter, attributing it to an unfair system instead of that unwillingness to come out of the digital world more.

So it’s roughly 3 options:

• Put in the effort
• REALLY make peace with not dating, not out of spite, but enjoying the choice
• live a bitter life

I wish you the best.

You need less internet. Or less contact with people who have too much internet.

The situations you’re describing, stuff like saying he’s not a real man, is what I see online, in YouTube videos videos etc. Those videos obviously have a selection bias, they pick the most egregious examples because that’s what gets clicks. I’ve never seen it in real life.

And IF you see it in real life, well obviously their values don’t align with yours, so why would you even WANT to date them; look elsewhere.

On top of that, also keep in mind that people who are “easy-going” (to summarize it as that), will leave the dating pool, while the difficult ones will stay there; you’re searching water in a swamp, kinda.

Yeah English is not a clear, direct language.

When English speakers say someone gets defensive, it usually doesn’t refer to literally the act of mounting a defense, without any moral connotation.

Instead, they usually refer to someone telling on themselves, by mounting a defense where there was no attack intended on them.

Like that recent trump interview, where pedophiles got mentioned, and he immediately “got defensive”, screaming that he’s not a pedophile, even though nobody made that statement about him in that interview.

Then you are excusing everybody who is evil.

Even your tobacco executives don’t want to hurt people as a goal in itself. They just want to make money, and are willing to hurt others for their own benefit.

That’s just what good and evil are, though?

Like, Good is you’re willing to sacrifice some of you’re for the benefits of others, Evil is you’re willing to sacrifice some of others’ for benefits of yourself?

Evil people only don’t think of themselves as evil because they have internalized that “evil” is a bad thing. But that what makes you evil, they often even openly admit to.

I think what’s missing is the request to be more special than others.

There are aquarium groups, but I’ve never seen them comment that you should shut up if you don’t own an aquarium. There is a “dull men” group, and I never saw them trying to forbid someone to speak in their room if they are too interesting or too female.

If you don’t want out-group people to participate, your solution is not a platform that allows everybody to participate, and then scold people if they do. It just makes it seem like it’s a deliberate setup to be able to tell people “You made a mistake. You have the wrong gender” - and if not that, they at least demand special treatment among the equals on Lemmy, also not a character trait that people appreciate.

Maybe Arbee’s? Taco Beell? Starbeeucks?

It’s showing more centimeters than inches

“Good thing there weren’t dozens.” You will NOT realize that you are engaging in the very pedantry you judged just one comment ago, will you?

“this many days” If 1 is many to you, you have to realize that you got so, so many criticisms for your communication.

“I processed the criticism and determined that I’m okay with the idea that some people can’t figure out […]” In meme format, “No, it must be the children who are wrong”. There’s nothing inconsequential about multiple people giving you the very same feedback.

“Nothing of value is on the line here” - like I said, it’s about your future (communication is also important in social life, love life, career, etc), so I wouldn’t say nothing. If you like to make these challenges, people have even given you some valuable feedback how to fix the bugs, but if you decide not to, meh; there’s enough content on the internet.

I was not insulting your ego, but the part about living in with narcissist fits. Because then you’re used to everything slightly negative being an attack that you have to defend yourself against, where you can’t lose even an inch of ground. And by protecting everything that is part of yourself like that, you deny yourself improvement. Because improvement is by definition change. If you are unwilling to change, it means you are unwilling to improve, and that is your personal decision alone to make.

Take this and improve yourself with it, or not - but let me be clear that a further defense is not gonna add any value. It’s like with a poster, or a joke; even if you explained it well somewhere else, it doesn’t make the original thing better.

Wrong!

If dozens of people tell you you’re doing it wrong, then it’s time to take a critical look at your actions, instead of just accusing everybody else of doing it wrong.

Not being able to process criticism without immediately getting defensive will make your life more difficult than it needs to be.

Then again, it is a skill that some people simply do not have. You might be literally unable to “defeat the ego” and have absolutely no doubt about your actions, even after so many people gave you feedback, people like that exist.

It’s usually off to the left. Even in this screenshot it’s between G, H and B, which is to the left in the letter part alone, even if not taking into account the numpad.

The most centered on the keyboard in front of me would be between K, M and comma.

No, the problem is definitely with your communication.

All this time, you had the rule that you have to use barley. But instead of communicating that, you only wrote that you HAVE barley.

Having something doesn’t mean that you are required to use it. I have rice, it doesn’t mean I have to use it in my next meal.

If somebody makes a steak from the pantry without barley, they have not followed your hidden intention, but they have followed your instructions.

So… it just seemed like your challenge was “tell me a food you like” in an unnecessary roundabout way.

Aside from purely theoretical, philosophical interest (suuuure), it doesn’t really matter, does it?

“Ah yes, now that you showed us the opinion of these online strangers on your phone, we will be ok angering your father - the man who famously hires ex-legionnaires for protection of his family - for a little hanky panky.”