dealt a bad hand

I need to read Man’s search for meaning. Ughh… sorry, that came out of nowhere, what I meant was, I need to know how to deal with things when I have been clearly dealt a bad hand by reading the work of a man who had the least reasons to see hope!

These are my completely useless two cents.

Trust me, just the acknowledgement of adversity of another helps (as long as the victim tries to acknowledge/accept the reality and work hard on improving it rather than drowning in their own miseries and the pleasures of being a victim)

. If you can handle the learning for controls engineering, a 2 year degree will get you a good paying job in a lot of the western world helping companies with their automation of production lines.

That’s very interesting, thanks for suggestion, I will look it up!

Unfortunately the nationalist have a lot of thugs to do their work and wrack havoc on people trying to bring about change

Haha… I have got personal experience with the goons. The ones who clam to religion the hardest (at least at the local level) seem to be the most morally corrupt. I have had this experience since I was a little kid, the people who wear the most saffron seem to be the least intelligent and empathetic. I had once seen a guy no older than myself at the time hurl rape abuses at a woman under her facebook post and the man was bloody covered in saffron! These fuckers made me lose my love for the color! Ughh…

Anyway I think you sound like a great person and the best of luck

Thank you very much! :)

I emigrated myself too, to England ironically…

I kinda like England, the literature, culture, journalists and much more! Apparently things are not as rosy right now, but it’s a wonderful place to be nonetheless, so, you are basically living my dream :')

If you want to “escape India” for better chances, just get to Dubai

I am anti-theist but have a hindu name, do you think that would hurt my chances? Also, what do you think about the government there, free-speech and all those nice things? (I am ok with not having these as long as the system is fair and I won’t be persecuted. Also, I have a said a lot of anti-religious stuff in the past, I don’t believe that anymore, would this cause any problem?)

Don’t get me wrong, I would break a leg to get there, but I am just wondering what I should do before I reach there. I kinda admire the rulers of Dubai, you have absolute power and you have created a wonderful place for everyone of your citizen instead of creating a dictatorship, that’s admirable.

I live in a ok place right now, but no matter where I go, I can’t deny that I am working my ass off just to afford the basic stuff and paying 4 months or more of taxes for nothing much!

For things to change all at once, Indians need to stop deluding themselves into thinking that they are this great country and every problem India faces is due to the outside influence or due to minorities. I don’t see that happening anytime soon. If India knew what the problem was like the Japanese did after the West forced it to open it’s waters for trade long ago, Indians would have stood a chance, but we don’t, we are in a really bad shape and many don’t know that we are in a bad shape and those who know are not focusing on the problem, rather they are focusing on Mughals, Muslims and serveral other external factors, they are not looking inwards.

Go back in time a prevent the British Empire

I have changed my mind on that really. I mean, yes they bled us dry in terms of money and we could have used that right about now, they destroyed domestic manufacturing, they used as their bank and much more, but it’s a little reductive to think had the British not invaded things would have been great. It might have been better in someways and worse in others. Google the Sati Practice, India was no golden bird before the British invaded and post-British Empire we are responsible for all the failures of our state, Indians love to blame the British, while they were responsible, it’s not very productive to be stuck in the past, Indians blame muslim invaders, Britishers, secularism and many more things for their failure, except of course, themselves and the culture they created!

You seemed to understand my point, though

Very well, you considered a lot of things before you wrote that comment :).

Don’t doubt yourself. Don’t be in a rut. You’ll never live otherwise.

Yes sir! I need to deal with that.

Again, thanks for the well-intentioned comments! :)

You say you can write a book, maybe you should

Ohh… I have thought about that, but India is not a country which takes criticism lightly. They will immediately say I am funded by Pakistan, Soros or by the enemies of the state and if the book is even published, it will gain me infamy making me immediately unemployable for anything else. It’s no joke being an author in India.

They have jailed people for reporting on UP schools serving bread with salt and this is not an outlier, journalists are in constant danger here.

I had an amazing date with an Indian woman here in Germany

Yay you!

the guys just seem to not understand the concept of keeping their dicks in their pants.

screams semi-joyfully It’s the curse

Saying that, also understand that STEM-related expertise areas are much more sought after. So it might not be a bad idea to focus on that side and/or diversify.

I tried this, failed once, trying again! :)

You’re young, you have plenty of time. So don’t feel burdened not finding a spark at this era in your life. My Mom immigrated here only after marriage, when she was 28

Thank you very much! I will turn 23 soon, I will try my best to get out and make something of myself and even if I can’t get out, I will try and live meaningfully here (PS: I posted here, because I thought that was very fucking difficult)

Also, thank you very much! I wish you well as you do to me! :)

You are a gift that keeps on giving, thank you! I will check em out!

That’s the biggest problem and why they left. You’re clearly a part of that.

Sorry, I am not racist. I know all this way too well. i.e., The corrupt bureaucrat and the politician who created this system knew all too well what he was doing and he had good personal motivations for it. I myself have put myself in their shoes and their world, and have tried to see what’s working in their mind. I won’t say I am racist, if I am racist I am towards the culture which created this shitshow. But you have good reasons to think that given my post. I am not blaming any ethnically or linguistically different group for where we are, I am blaming the culture. Babies are not born creepy, the culture makes them what they become. The creepy guys I talk about, I am pretty sure they won’t have been creepy in a better culture.

not your fault, but you shouldn’t participate in that bullshit by saying such things and having such a defeated mindset.

Trust me, I once had hope, but this system beats it out of you! This system has failed me multiple times in dire ways. That being said, you are 100% correct, defeatism and resentment, nothing good comes out of them. I am no longer resentful as much as I used to be, I will try to keep that defeatism at bay!

But as a white guy with 13 friends from Nepal, India, and Bangladesh, I’d like to think my advice isn’t entirely disregardable, as it’s indirectly from them.

Trust me, I read it very intently. I will try to follow what you have suggested, I have a few friends abroad (White Native borns), they know and understand me, they will help me get out! :)

, if you talk about India and Indians the way you did In your post, you’ll fit right in with them lol

I don’t blame them tbch, but yeah, I plan on mixing with the non-racist bunch and spending my spare hours in the library if I ever get there! Kudos!

I appreciate the effort and the intention behind your reply, thank you very much for trying to help me!

1. It is the only option, but I am not sure how, as in, I don’t have great grades and there are millions of Indians waiting to immigrate! It’s a shitshow tbh, a friend went to London for a business degree, still unemployed and stuck in debt! The desperation to get out among people is extremely depressing.

edit: How can one try to get out? Get good really good in their field?

Also, when Indians try to find happiness in mediocrity, we use a phrase, “India is a not for beginners”, Schooby-Doo-typa curse is easy, this shit has expert level difficulty.

Oh yes, it most certainly is, but it is not redeemable in my life time/youth is what I know for sure.

Hey! Thank you! that’s gonna come in handy!