Eh. People should take things as seriously as they feel they should. A lot of actually important shit, that challenges real and significant injustices, gets shut down with “don’t take things so seriously”. We don’t need to turn discussing our feelings about the world into an “I’m so chill” competition.
But also, people need to understand - on both sides of the utterance - that “I find this offensive” is an informational statement, not a demand for action. If I find something you’ve said offensive, that’s information that is now yours to weigh as you please. If you don’t care to understand why, or decide that my feelings don’t outweigh whatever else you’re trying to do, then you’re now making that decision with a little bit of extra feedback.
Getting defensive about someone not liking what you’ve done is on you.
And a lot of unimportant shit that shouldn’t really be a factor gets brought up because some people just don’t like it.
Trans people in women’s bathrooms, or even something as simple as gay marriage, for example. Should we spend time and energy on that because it hurts peoples feelings?
Like I said, it’s not a matter of all one thing or all another. It’s about finding a middle ground.
Eh. People should take things as seriously as they feel they should. A lot of actually important shit, that challenges real and significant injustices, gets shut down with “don’t take things so seriously”. We don’t need to turn discussing our feelings about the world into an “I’m so chill” competition.
But also, people need to understand - on both sides of the utterance - that “I find this offensive” is an informational statement, not a demand for action. If I find something you’ve said offensive, that’s information that is now yours to weigh as you please. If you don’t care to understand why, or decide that my feelings don’t outweigh whatever else you’re trying to do, then you’re now making that decision with a little bit of extra feedback.
Getting defensive about someone not liking what you’ve done is on you.
And a lot of unimportant shit that shouldn’t really be a factor gets brought up because some people just don’t like it.
Trans people in women’s bathrooms, or even something as simple as gay marriage, for example. Should we spend time and energy on that because it hurts peoples feelings?
Like I said, it’s not a matter of all one thing or all another. It’s about finding a middle ground.