Any advice you’ve ever heard or given. I linked a great video that I think would be my answer, combined with the “stop caring what other people think about you” and “comparison is the thief of joy” comments below. Just do stuff that you wanna do, don’t compare and don’t care what others say. It’s awesome advice.

  • Noxy@pawb.socialEnglish
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    10 days ago

    “Treat others as you would have them treat you” is garbage, utter fucking trash

    instead of the shitass golden rule, I prefer the platinum rule: “Treat others how they want to be treated”

    • prole@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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      10 days ago

      That’s a good point, masochists have a pretty big loophole to Golden Rule, don’t they?

  • ace_garp@lemmy.world
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    9 days ago

    Migrate some of your media intake and software use, to Free Culture options.

    Saves money, increases the amount of free-sharing and mutual-aid in the world.

    Avoids spyware, DRM, AI slop, tracking, and assorted other nasties.

    Some Free Culture links listed here:

    http://perthfreeculture.org/

  • Mac@mander.xyzEnglish
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    8 days ago

    You don’t have to be good at your hobbies—you only need to enjoy them.

  • WatDabney@sopuli.xyz
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    10 days ago

    Never loan anyone anything unless you’re willing to give it to them, because that could well turn out to be exactly what you’re doing.

  • cheese_greater@lemmy.world
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    10 days ago

    Try to care less each day about what others think of you. I don’t mean be uncivil or degenerate per se but rather try to say yes to yourself more and less to others until you feel there’s a better balance. People care way to much about what others think about them at massive cost to themselves and its not healthy or actually even desireable.

    The person who is most authentic and self-nourished will always win, sort of an extension to the notion that the person who cares the least has the most power. Relationships come and go but you gotta learn to live with and as you and to chase only what you know in your heart to be correct for you

        • metaStatic@kbin.earth
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          10 days ago

          People in general pay you very little mind, even people who care about you. it’s called the spotlight effect.

          • cheese_greater@lemmy.world
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            10 days ago

            I only mean that most of the time, the way people make themselves subservient to preserve relationships that aren’t organic or sustainable is moot anyway cuz they’ll can your ass the minute there’s any problem or inconvenience or reciprocity expected. Better to be proactive and get ahead of it by making better choices for yourself and turning down worse options now when you have discretion and someone isn’t forcing your move

  • FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world
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    10 days ago

    Find one small thing you can cut out and save that money every week in a savings account.

    When the market crashes like it did in 2008 and 2020, take every one of those dollars and put it in stocks, because during a crash, you can often get high value stocks at a huge discount that wouldn’t exist in normal market conditions.

    Wait 2-3 years for the market recovery and sell that stock at a profit.

    Also, don’t wait until your 30’s to get a set of silk sheets.

    If you’re happy alone, be alone. You don’t have to get married. You don’t have to get kids. Those things suck to have if you do not want them in the first place.

    • moistclump@lemmy.world
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      9 days ago

      Time in the market vs timing the market, discount might buy you a couple years worth of time but if you ever investing as you go you’d most likely have made more even with the crash.

      Also, bamboo sheets for me!

      • FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world
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        9 days ago

        Time in the market vs timing the market

        Absolutely a good way to go as well, especially if you drop that cash in fee-free index funds (Vanguard’s a good way to go) or an ETF like VTI. This is absolutely the best way to go if you’re an undisciplined investor, lack patience, or just want to set it, forget it, and watch your growth over time.

        I just think it’s also useful to have cash on the side so you can take advantage of crashes. You only get a handful of them in a lifetime and they are 100% the best opportunity to buy. I paid off my student loans with profits I made grabbing oil stocks in March 2020 for pennies on the dollar.

  • hypeerror@sh.itjust.works
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    10 days ago

    Take care of your body. Teeth, bones, joints, muscles, and skin can all be repaired but it’s never as good as a factory original.

    Also, those repairs cost time and money. My father in law is almost 20 years younger than my dad and can’t do as much in a day as my dad. He’s shortened his quality life because he thought shrugging off problems was what you should do.

  • QuentinCallaghan@sopuli.xyz
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    10 days ago

    “Don’t compare yourself to others.” Everyone develops at their own pace. This also helps in building a good self-esteem.

  • Truffle@lemmy.ml
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    10 days ago

    I shared this before here, but it completely changed the way I live my life:

    Perfect is the enemy of good enough.

    So please, give yourself grace and understanding especially if you are a perfectionist. Go at your own pace.

    • moistclump@lemmy.world
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      9 days ago

      We had a phrase in graduate school for group projects… “good enough, move on”. Or GEMO. When we were getting too wrapped up in the details someone would say “should we just GEMO?” And there’d invariably be a sigh of relief as everyone agreed yes, it’s good enough, let’s move on.