• qarbone@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    As someone who was very mentally fragile years ago, it’s very easy to say “just don’t engage, hang up the phone”. But, when someone is verbally beating you down, it can slip your mind under the pressure.

    OP said they were keeping it high-level but their over-boss kept pressing for specifics. I don’t think they need a reference guide in this instance.

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      2 months ago

      That’s why you practice this stuff. It’s the only way to make sure you won’t slip under pressure.

      It’s what I had to do - just make it a natural response. “I’m not well, I won’t be in”. Just keep repeating it, regardless of how many times you’re asked why.

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      2 months ago

      Yeah, not to mention the anxiety of “If I don’t satisfy them with some answer now, they’re gonna drag me into a ‘little talk for a moment’ later that’ll feel like an interrogation.”

      I think we really need workshops on training and resilience on how to talk to bosses and not break under pressure.

      Lord knows these sociopaths have plenty of “management training” on how to coerce, intimidate, and interrogate employees!