- there’s a guy I’d like to know, we bump into each other sometimes. Last time I actually thought he was excited to see me but not sure of course… my self esteem is a rollercoaster.
- I can’t actually pursue something “serious” right now so I’d like to know him but in the most casual way possible. Just thinking about asking him out makes me feel sick
- this isn’t just about him but in general, what can I do, I really don’t know how to deal with myself.
I’m 26 and really need all help possible. I’m in a bad place at the moment and I didn’t even wanna post this… but a friend once told me to not let all areas of my life fall apart. Wish I had listened. Really just give me any advice you feel like giving me, it would be appreciated.
How often do you bump into each other? If you can rely on there likely being a next encounter, break your approach into smaller goals. Like the other commenter said, start with a “Hi” next time you see them. Then the next time add a little “how are you?” Build upon each interaction. Once you establish the super casual familiarity with each other, you’ll (likely) be more comfortable with expanding the relationship in whatever direction you see fit. Small, achievable wins lead to bigger, more exciting goals!
Thank you! :) I just hope I don’t bother him… cause I’m afraid he can tell I’m attracted and being that I’m not sure about him reciprocating… I don’t want him to feel forced to be nice or something