Again you’re failing to see the other side. Falling back into ignorance. Most of what you’ve said is horrifically arrogant. You’ve ignored my most important points. This response may seem angry but your response comes off as incredibly selfish. You seem to think war is a choice made by both sides. It honestly comes off entitled and selfish.

The thing is, I come from a different country, so it’s natural for me to think “what about the other side? didn’t they lose lives? wheren’t those lives taken by Australians, same as the Australians where taken from them?”

My parents immigrated here as well. That doesn’t really affect anything. Those people have monuments in their home towns and countries. Where they are from. Do you think every country should honour every person ever? Do you think those people want monuments in the countries they fought against? I highly doubt anyone would. Like I said and you’ve ignored, it’s to honour their family and friends.

I don’t have patriotism. Australian lives are as important as Turkish, Korean, Vietnamese, etc, etc. If there should be a monument for Australian lives lost, there should be a same amount for lives Australians took. There should be no monument for anyone taking anyone’s lives in my opinion. I have the same opinion for my country of origin.

Again you’re being seemingly purposefully ignorant. This isn’t patriotism, although I was born here with my siblings, the rest of my family were not and they can still understand what memorials are for.

This is about real people, not the concept of a countries military. You refuse to separate the person from the soldier. You treat every soldier as if they’re one single entity whose life only consisted of war. They are people, and it’s rude of you not to treat them as people. The monuments are not for taking lives, but for lives lost. They’re not posting kill counts and bragging. They’re remembering their dead friends and family.

I would be upset if someone close to me died. But if he died going to a war to kill someone, I would never blame who killed him, but who made him go there.

Again, you’re ignoring my point. These aren’t blame to those who killed him. And what do you mean made him go there, do you believe every soldier is drafted? Or are you saying whomever starts a war is always wrong? The point was, if you lost a friend, you’d likely want to honour them.

There is a vilain and an enemy in these stories, but I think it’s usually not the guy with the weapon. It’s the guys behind them. Every soldier usually think he’s fighting for something good (except a big part who just really enjoy killing).

You’re just making up points to justify your feelings. There is villains and enemies on both sides in a war. Blood on all hands. There’s complications to every aspect of life. It’s just easier for you to call things black and white and call yourself smart for choosing a side. War is an unfortunate but real part of life. You’re just imagining you’re more intelligent and more evolved for not wanting violence. It’s honestly quite arrogant. Sometimes there isn’t a choice but to get a weapon when you’re being fired at. Assuming a big part of soldiers love killing? Why because of a few Hollywood movies? No, you’re just trying to justify your beliefs.

Unfortunately I can’t make my question about the towns without exposing my reasons, my feelings regarding the issue. I do not plan to change anyone’s point of view here (and I regret that I am debating, but how can I talk about it without expressing my reasons?), just trying to find how to live happily in a society with a few values I don’t share. Every country will have that.

But you’re not willing to change, so you expect society to change for you. You’ve made your mind, are ignoring all the points I’ve made, and refusing to see another perspective. All you’ve done is double down and brag about your pacifism. Quite frankly, I doubt there’s a country in the world that will suit your ego.

And as I said in another post, I think the intentions of the memorials, if they are as you say, are not having the proper effect.

I’ve never seen a single opinion as narrow minded as yours. The effect is clearly just missed by you, because you don’t want to see it. You’re making yourself feel smart, superior, better than others for making choices with hindsight. Quite frankly it’s arrogant and shameful.

Since you ignored my entire point of separating the soldier and person in my first post, I won’t be responding again. You need to remember a person is more than their job. They were a brother, a son, a friend, a student, so many things to so many people. It’s rude of you to boil down their existence to your narrow view of the world. Keep feeling superior for not wanting war and imagining the rest of the world is bloodthirsty and violent. Because with that much ego, you’ll be alone a long time.