Hello gay people in my phone. My child (16) sort of came out as trans to me today. I have been here for the memes for a while, and ive long been a supporter of gay and trans rights.
Do yall have any recommendations of resources for parents of trans kids? I want to help and support them correctly and to the best of my abilities.
Looking for maybe books and communities? Thank you.
Yes, this is a concern i have as well. I have not discussed new names or pronouns with them yet because they havent shared any of that with me yet, and i dont want to rush them.
I have tried to keep my reaction to supportive but also not act like anything has changed.
I am currently using gender neutral pronouns in this post because it already feels wrong to misgender them even if they are still “girlmoding” (am i using that right?)
They are coming for a visit soon, and i plan to discuss how they wish to be referred and if there are other differences in how they wish to be treated by me at that time. Until then i dont plan to make many changes in my behavior. In a 1 on 1 conversations the only pronoun is “you” so it probably wont matter yet.
Hahah, I have no idea if you’re using that right, looks close enough to me.
I think that’s the best way to proceed. Each case is different, and each person is different. The only way to know is to talk to them. Like I said elsewhere, you seem like you’ve got the right mindset, and that’s 80% there. The rest you learn as you go, with the person you’re supporting.
I don’t have anything helpful to say but just wanted you to know this post is making me almost cry because I wish I had a parent like you. Thanks for being their safe space.