Hello gay people in my phone. My child (16) sort of came out as trans to me today. I have been here for the memes for a while, and ive long been a supporter of gay and trans rights.
Do yall have any recommendations of resources for parents of trans kids? I want to help and support them correctly and to the best of my abilities.
Looking for maybe books and communities? Thank you.
Not sure why you mentioned being straight. Did you mean to say cis?
I was talking to them in their language.
What?
I’m assuming they meant “talking to the parent, using less complicated, more mainstream words, even if the meaning is a little wrong as a result”.
Which in my opinion is an ok approach, even though this specific parent, just by posting here, appears tech- and lgbt- savvy enough to probably know at least some terms.
Also, they could have just said ‘not trans’ instead, if ‘cis’ would be too advanced.Actually scratch that, I get using “straight” as non-lgbt. It is how is very commonly used outside of lgbt circles.
But not a bad thought on its own.
just maybe a bit othering.CIS guys don’t talk to each other like “hey I’m CIS!”
There’s no reason to make it anything more than that. I was trying to be kind and considerate. I didn’t have the answers that he was looking for. I wanted him to know that there’s other guys here like him.
If you start the conversation and tell me you aren’t a typical CIS man, I’d respond that I was a typical CIS man. Does that help you understand?
Exactly, which is why I’m confused why you started off saying you’re straight. Clearly you said it for a reason, but it doesn’t seem relevant to anything, so I don’t know the reason. My best guess was that you meant it like “hey, I’m not trans either so I’m empathizing with you here” which is why I asked if you meant cis, because the opposite of trans is cis, not straight.
To clarify, I’m not attacking, I’m just trying to figure out what you meant.