Hello gay people in my phone. My child (16) sort of came out as trans to me today. I have been here for the memes for a while, and ive long been a supporter of gay and trans rights.
Do yall have any recommendations of resources for parents of trans kids? I want to help and support them correctly and to the best of my abilities.
Looking for maybe books and communities? Thank you.
Ask them for their preferred pronouns, ask if they have a preferred name, and ask for time to make those things natural to you. Then ask if they would like to go to gender therapy, take puberty blockers, or other age appropriate trans healthcare.
As for educating yourself, Judith Butler is a great starting point
Not preferred pronouns. Just pronouns
https://glaad.org/reference/transgender
Op, glaad and hrc both have great resources to dig into
https://www.hrc.org/our-work/parents-for-transgender-equality-network (see supporting your trans children page)
I didn’t know the community dropped that term, my bad. Agreed, GLAAD is a great source. I recommended Butler because generally I think people want to know “why do people” when they want to understand
I respectfully disagree with Judith Butler as an entry to gender theory. Unless they’ve made some more accessible material at some point and I’ve just missed it. It took me 3 attempts to finish gender trouble and I’m not even sure I completely comprehend it lol. That book is dense and full of extremely obscure language and some stuff that I’m convinced they just made up. Not saying OP shouldn’t eventually read it but he should watch some videos and read a few accessible books on gender theory before diving into Judith Butler
That’s a fair assessment. Some of her books are pretty difficult. I started Who’s Afraid of Gender and didn’t think it was more difficult than Chomsky’s Manufacturing Consent, but I suppose it’s all about where folks are at