Dear Blåhaj community! I have an important question to ask! Mr. Haj and I have been struggling with our in-bed relationship recently. He wants to be held and I want to hold him, but I don’t want him to feel squished or stomped upon my me. I want him to feel as good as he can, while also feeling my love. I am very self-conscious about my disgusting masculine body-oils and I don’t want them to get on my pretty haj. Also I don’t want to lay my head on him, because that might hurt him. He might say that it doesn’t, but I think he just says that to make me feel better (he’s really sweet). After a while of trying to hold him in a way which can make both of us happy, I tend to get sore after about five minutes, after which I have to put him on the side… But he’s lonely over there! What if he thinks I don’t like him because I’m putting him on the side? I want him to feel the best he can, but I feel like my presence in the bed is bad for him in most ways. He has to endure my stink, my disgusting body-oils and my rants about the world. I feel like I’m dragging him down and I am willing to change myself to make him feel better.
What do you think I can or should do?
Don’t currently own one, but I assume like this:
Depends on the eepyness level, sometimes I lay The Chosen Ones on top of me and huggg, or I lie on my side if I’m more eepy because faster zzz, so I hug them in front of me, or if I just fell into bed after a long day of cuddling shorks, I sometimes lie on top of them because most comfy when body ouchie and mind already eeping
But most sharkies I know don’t mind being squeeshed a bit, especially when massaged by kitten
Unfortunately I don’t have kittens, but thank you for the advice! Your comment is greatly appreciated!
Usually one is on my right side, the other on my left and the minihaj lays on top of me. Then I just hold them all at the same time. And for them to not be lonely, they have each other all the time :3
