• arthur@lemmy.zip
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    6 months ago

    “What are your values and political views?” Compatibility on that subject is quite important IMHO.

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      6 months ago

      I disagree with you on politics, I don’t think that is important to a relationship if the people involved are able to discuss and disagree about ideas amicably. Unfortunately that seems increasingly less common in our modern society as algorithm-based social media continues to push people further into their respective echo-chambers. Of course, I am not here to tell you that you can’t look for that in a partner, I just don’t think the concept of political compatibility should universally apply to every relationship or even a majority of relationships.

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        6 months ago

        Many political questions are reasonable to disagree on but many others are also ethical ones with gaps that cannot be bridged.

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    6 months ago

    do you enjoy firing off hypothetical answers into the curious void of psuedoanonymous obscure social media platforms? (if so we probably have something in common, call me ayyyye)

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      6 months ago

      “Do you think your opinion about pineapple on pizza is a personality trait? 'Cause I sure don’t”

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        6 months ago

        Besides missing the extremely obvious joke, the question wasn’t even about personality traits, it was about compatibility.

        Maybe we can make an extension that puts “/s” after everything for you

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    “Do you think fighting can be part of a healthy relationship?”

    My wife and I rarely fight, we’ve maybe had two or three in our entire relationship, and they weren’t yelling matches We just got upset and patched things up relatively quickly. I don’t think I could be with someone who thinks raising their voice at another person is okay, and surely not if they think it can be healthy. And hard “hell no” to any violence.

    So, this is a weedout question

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    If you won the lottery, what’s the first irresponsible thing you’d do with the money?

    No paying off student loans, no buying your parents a house. It has to be irresponsible but not necessarily indefensible. Great icebreaker question.

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      6 months ago

      I’d buy vast swathes of land in the countryside, and just make it a homeless refuge. They can erect a tent town if they want, host festivals, do farm work for money. Whatever, they’re protected from the police.

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        I’ve had similar thoughts, but also then I was worried about legal liability if there’s drugs, violence, arson (not saying homeless are bad - these things happen even amongst middle aged middle class people)

        I prefer to become a big benefactor of a charity that does good work and attend the board meetings.

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    Can I have me time without you taking issue?

    Will you ask me to explain myself instead of making assumptions about what I mean when you aren’t sure what I mean?

    You know I’m kinda nuts, and it’s not really getting better. you sure about this? ;)

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    What are your thoughts on polyamory?

    If they are polyamorous, it’s a no. If they have been polyamorous before but say they’re looking for a monogamous relationship this time, also no. If they use the term “ethical non-monogamy” in a positive way, even if they claim they’re monogamous, straight in the fucking bin.