How do I be charming when I have no charm? Advice needed several years ago
To be charming I think you need to learn the art of the schmooze. Basically telling people what they want to hear.
Charm comes from being your authentic self. Sounds cliche but that whole “you could be the best, most delicious apple, but there will still be people who don’t like apples” saying.
Be you, the whole of you. And you will attract and charm those who you like as well.
HIGHLY contextual on who your trying to charm and for what purpose.
I need to replace some elastic waistbands but I put all that away on a high shelf and stuff on top of it -_-
Edit: I grabbed it down, and I had already done the worst of it for one pair of pants. (The elastic was folded over with the top of the pants and both sewn in together, probably for speed in a factory, meaning I had to unpick the entire waistband the whole way around. I had then handsewed it into a lazy but serviceable casing so the next time I need to replace or adjust the elastic I can undo a few stitches and just pull the old elastic out.)
The new elastic is in that pair now but I haven’t sewn the hole up yet. I’m going to wear it around for a little while to be sure it’s a comfortable tightness and then close it.
Time to start unpicking the next pair.
Unbelievably, I made the shepherd’s pie! The texture didn’t really come out how I thought it would, though I think that’s because maybe I used this brand of tinned jackfruit that I honestly never should use again, too much of the tough core and not enough flesh.
However, the umami/flavour is out of this world. Lots of it would be from the tomato paste, dried mushrooms and soy sauce, but I think the coffee definitely added a certain something to it too… must try again with some tweaks.
Maybe I’ll make a spag bol sauce on the weekend with the remaining tomato paste and tvp mince, and see if the coffee trick works again 🤔 ☕ 😋
I am so intrigued. I made a cottage pie this week with some chicken and mushrooms as the base and then the usual vegies like carrots and peas and celery. Mashed taters on top of course. I used a vegie stock cube for some gravy.
It’s a great hot meal for a cold night. I have mine with melted butter on top of the taters. 🤤😋😋
rest day for back has been restful 😊
I tried soju for the first time tonight. I really like it.
It’s alarmingly easy to drink like a lot of Asian spirits/wines in my experience
Neat.
Yes. In shot glasses.
I like soju, and soju you
😂
time i make my signature dish
It’s bin day and we’re waiting for the pick up. Elderly neighbour was out and on his way back home reversed into his bins, knocking them over and spilling a bit of crap on the nature strip and footpath.
Did he notice? Absolutely not.
Did he go out and pick it up? No chance.
Did I do the right thing, rush out and tidy up as the rubbish truck was at the top of our street? Yes, but was grumbling the entire time.
My biggest issue was that it took the rubbish truck a few minutes to do it’s round. Not long enough for me to back inside, but just too long to stand outside waiting andlooking like an impatient resident that is totally judging the truck driver’s performance.
It’s bin day and we’re waiting for the pick up. Elderly neighbour was out and on his way back home reversed into his bins, knocking them over and spilling a bit of crap on the nature strip and footpath.
might be worth putting a letter in the mailbox or something. Or if its a continued pattern of behavior report 'em. Today its the bin, Tomorrow could be a kid on a bike.
Good idea with the letter. Hitting the bins wasn’t my main concert. Shit happens at slow speed. Not noticing that he did it was the alarm bells.
yeah same for me! Accidents happen, not realizing they happened is… concerning.
I can relate to this.
Sometimes my back is so sore I can’t bend over to pick things up. I just look at them. If it’s at home I wait until I can pick it up but somewhere else, I will try my best but if I can’t I can’t.
Those grabber sticks are great. I also want a table that swings over the bed
I clean up, whenever I haven’t I’m just bothered by litter around my street until the council monthly sweeper comes through.
I like it when my street is clean. If there’s any rubbish around after the truck comes past, I’ll pick it up and put in my bin. This was more that neighbours’ bins wouldn’t have been picked up if knocked over.
bed rest for a sore back is on order 😿 just preventive
love you all 😘
The best thing to heal is… time unfortunately.
I can has new heater (pakidge!). Cheeky buggers supply no batteries for the remote, but seems good so far. Looking forward to toasty toes.
Second day of trying to use TOIL. Haha, joke’s on me, it never goes according to plan… Buuut can’t complain. Mate invited me around after work, fed me and gasbagged. Thoroughly enjoyed and appreciated.
Going to try again tomorrow.
Meanwhile, I am enjoying (Unnatural) アンナチュラル on NF. It seems a little more progressive that what I’d expect, so I’m finding it lighthearted, maybe a little western, but fun all the same.
I saw a kitty litter box with enter and exit doors and I wondered if kitty would care if it accidentally Dutch ovened it self.
Mickey has been snoozing in my oodie, and he doesn’t seem to mind huffing his own farts. So prolly not lol
If someone farts in my house the dog licks the air but if it’s him he pretends he’s asleep.
He’s just tasting what you had for dinner 😂
air biscuit
I’m still super tired and need to be up early tomorrow to leave early for an appointment and then dinner with a friend… But I promised I’d bring a plate and I know she’s far more tired and cash strapped than me, so I’m summoning all my energy to have a go at this vegan shepherds pie recipe now - to be finished off in the oven at hers tomorrow. It’s got rehydrated shiitake, squeezed out jackfruit and coffee (?!). I really wanna see how it turns out, haven’t made shepherd’s pie in years.
Well, leftover pizza has been had - time to soak and chop and sweat. I can do this!!
After a few fallthroughs Melbcat finally got to the vet for her Solensia yesterday - she’s having more noticeable side effects this time though.
Last night she pulled a chunk of fur out of her back and was stalking around lashing her tail all wriggly like a snake. Today she’s been very sooky and smoochy, initiating and allowing a long session of brushing when normally she gets overstimulated after a few brushstrokes and walks away. (This time I sat to brush my own hair and she rubbed her cheek on my brush until I gave her a very long groom.) There’s some squinting like there’s pain or she doesn’t feel good. She’s also thrown up a bit and not finishing all of her food.
Nausea, loss of appetite and skin irritation are on the list of side effects so that’s pretty normal. Getting a bit freaked out at Reddit comments claiming that it killed their cat but am just going to keep an eye on her.
I’ve had my flu shot today so we can cuddle and be wretched together.
In other notes, it seems cats love generic Tangle Teezer style knockoffs. I’ll try it again when she’s not craving brushies (it’s the bean shaped solid plastic kind with no handle, very easy to clean in hot soapy water) and if it’s nicer on her skin than the slicker brush it can become hers or I’ll buy her her own.
Brushing is so good for cats, all those feel good hormones will help her feel better. so many hugs
It was amazing, a cat that never lets me brush her was smooching the brush and lay like a tired complacent little potato while I went over her shoulders, head and entire back. I’m hoping she comes good soon.
I hope she feels better soon! Sweet baby loves you 💜
Thanks. She’s cuddled up now
Early night tonight.
Good sleep everyone . 😘
Yesterday a car drove up and back down my court and stopped outside my front gate, would the window down and took a photo (from what I could see). He then realised I was there and left. Not feeling overly safe, didn’t get numberplate so calling cops would be useless?
Dead end road in the sticks……
Not good. Do you have cctv? Might still be worth reporting. The photo (?) sounds like might be casing the joint for robbery of tools/generator/copper piping etc. Which is a thing that’s increasing.
Unfortunately even if you did get a plate, the cops can’t do much anyways. Unless he was in your driveway or otherwise on your property, it’s not illegal to drive down a dead end street. And although creepy, it’s not illegal to take photos of people on private property if you’re doing so from public property unless they have “a reasonable expectation of privacy”, or people’s houses
I get that but the fact that they took off when they saw me - that’s dodgy af. Fortunately my big dog was barking from the house, hopefully a deterrent if it’s casing for a break in.
Are you friendly with neighbours with security cameras?
Got them on my camera but just didn’t get the plate (they were trying to stay out of range methinks). Will realign a camera.
The neighbours might’ve caught them. You could do a letter drop in the court saying someone was taking photos from their car on DATE and TIME.
