i came back on lemmy mainly because i missed my friends especially u

I’m sorry you’re going through this. The system we live in makes us feel worthless if we are struggling to achieve the standard of life that’s held up as an example: university degree or qualification, good job, spouse, kids, friends, house, being happy etc. And yet at the same time this system makes it more and more difficult for people to achieve any of these things. The fact that the majority of people are now falling into debt, mental illness, friendlessness, etc shows it’s a system failure rather than a personal failure.

I’m finding some of the posts in this thread very relatable.

Yo. Listen up. I am unemployed and have been for so long I no longer get unemployment insurance. I have mental illnesses that are highly treatment resistant. I have debt that I will not be able to pay off.

And I am not worthless. I am worth every bit as much as every single person you met today. I am worth as much as any other being on this planet. You are not to take my worth away with your assessment.

You are worth just as much as me and as much as the millionaire over there and pipe fitter over this way and the union organizer over that way and the union busting dickhead down that street over there. We are valuable because we are people, because we are beings, not because of whatever else you’re measuring against.

You matter to me. I better sure as hell matter to you.

Now, more than anything, prove to yourself that you matter, and get some rest. You deserve rest, because you are suffering. Find some peace in yourself. It’s waiting for you. Don’t keep it waiting forever.

Mental illness, unemployment, debt, etc. I feel worthless for having all of these and more, and I feel like there is no way to escape.

well…i’ve faced many or maybe all those things. sometimes it feels like ending everything is the best way, but i’ve learned something:

1-try to get some medical help. some people here hate psychiatry, but depression usually is a mix of chemical unbalances in your body and the lack of direction, so you have to be holistic and find some chemicals to stabilize your body, and a prescription will help (you don’t need to tell all your issues to the doctor, you just need to describe the pain, the asfixiating sensation in your chest or your specific physical ailment, and that person will give you something according)

2-after repairing the chemical issue, is time to work in your mindset, remember your teachings, focus your hate against something different like yourself (like the bourgueoisie) to recover your path in life

after solving the physical issue, you can focus in work in your mind, getting good content, reading theory, repairing your mind avoiding for a while toxic places and stuff.

i hope this will help

Debt is something capital wants you to have, we all have it, its only getting worse. It is not your personal failing. Capital wants you to believe it is though. Recognizng this doesn’t get rid of the debt, but it can help with taking the blame off you and placing it where it belongs. Your mental illness deserves care but Capital will refuse to do so, it will instead mark people like us who struggle as “waste” and a “burden”. We are nether of those things. Capital wants you to believe that about yourself, that because it decided you are not “productive,” that you have no worth. That is not true. We all have worth, and have the right to a life of health and dignity. Capital wants you isolated, yet here we are, communicating. None of this changes the reality you describes. I just hope I can help reframe this reality away from self blame.

One thing we can try to do is make a list of the things you do have agency over. What things in your immediate realty can you change or have high levels of influence over? Can you use that agancy to improve the other aspects you have less agency over?

Be well friend. Hang in there. ❤️