i had an ex who broke up with me because I wouldn’t physically beat her, and like kept trying to goad me into punching and hitting her.
and no not in a bdsm way, it was in a ‘my daddy beat my mom and that’s what i think love is’ way. she basically said I don’t love her unless I ‘show her what a real man I am by making her stay with me’.
that was one of the most fucked up nights of my life. took me like two years to get over that.
Yeah, some people want to be abused too, and they feel the ick if the person isn’t abusive and starts avoiding them.
i had an ex who broke up with me because I wouldn’t physically beat her, and like kept trying to goad me into punching and hitting her.
and no not in a bdsm way, it was in a ‘my daddy beat my mom and that’s what i think love is’ way. she basically said I don’t love her unless I ‘show her what a real man I am by making her stay with me’.
that was one of the most fucked up nights of my life. took me like two years to get over that.
Sometimes it’s genetics too, some adoptees are all fucked up even if the foster parents do their best to lead them from a young age