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I always think in what you labeled as “bad day”. So everything seems harder than it is and takes more spoons. That’s why I need Adderal and coffee every day.
Perfect description. For bonus points add doubt to every step:
Should I wash the pot more before using it to fill water, or is it enough to rinse it?
There is stuff in the sink. Will it cause me to spray water when filling the pot over it? What if I hold the pot too low and get tomato sauce on it. I’ll have to clean it. Where is the dish rag in case I need it?
Should I rinse the filter first? I heard it recommended.
Should the coffee put in the filter be flattened? Or is it okay in a little mound like it always is.
How cold will I have to wait for the grounds to be before I take the filter out, and is there space in the garbage? What if it leaks again and I get a small coffee puddle in the drawer under the bin bag that is so hard to clean.
And add micro-blackouts where random unrelated gestures and moves have been made, only to find out right after the fact
This is why I can’t make a pot of coffee without first emptying the dishwasher (if it’s clean), move dishes from sink to dishwasher, and take out the trash first.
This is one reason why I drink Cold Brew. I only have to make it like once a week.
I just defer all that to lunchtime when I need the griddle.
Which of course doesn’t get cleaned until dinner, when the cycle repeats.
And you’ll come back in from taking the trash out and forget the original plan was to make coffee and go do another thing instead.
Cold brew is a great idea. What’s your method/recipe?
I have a primula cold brew pitcher that I bought several years ago and it has had constant use. I’m not sure if they still make/sell this particular model but it does approx 2qts at a time.
So I’ll make a primula pitcher and let it steep for a few days, then move it to a “storage pitcher” (regular 2qt pitcher) and then start another primula pitcher that’ll steep until the storage pitcher is empty. Rinse. Repeat.
The pitcher has held up amazingly well over the years. Recently, the filter handle has these two little metal pins that function as a hinge…over time they corroded and now needs replacement. I bought some little screws and nuts to do it but now I forgot where I put the handle.
The great thing about cold brew is that even cheap beans/grounds make a pretty good coffee. I usually buy the cheapest pre-ground at Job Lot, or store brand at the wholesale club. The pitcher has definitely paid for itself in Dunkin runs.
Thank you!
Also, there is the possibility that the last time the coffee maker was used it was never rinsed, and now there is a green cement-like layer of mold on the bottom that will need to soak overnight before you can even imagine scrubbing it off.
This is why I keep cheap instant coffee on hand. Just dump a couple table spoons into your mouth and chew until it’s gone.
#goblincore
You can also get those concentrated energy drink drops that you’re supposed to put in a bottle of water. I’ve got heart problems for some reason, can’t imagine why.
I use energy drinks for that. I drink them a bit too much, but it’s useful to roll out of bed and chug way too much caffeine on days I need to get up and go.
Otherwise coffee. Per week usually 3 days energy drinks 4 days caffeine
I’ve heard this is a good analogue to dementia. When you list out all 14 steps of making coffee, it’s not surprising that someone with an impairment gets things wrong.
Note that you didn’t specify where the pot and coffee maker are, how exactly to measure the coffee, where the filter is, what to do with it, exactly.
do you know whether dementia also affects simpler routines, such as making coffee with coffee powder and a boiling pot? it’s:
- boil water
- add coffee powder
done
ah yes, the classic tale of accidentally pouring water in the container of coffee grounds
Shut up I did that on purpose I just like it really strong.
I’m surprised that bad day isn’t, no coffee cus too many steps.
A day without coffee is the day I die
I’d get overwhelmed and die on step 3.
Can’t you just do it?
Have they tried breaking it down into smaller steps to make it more manageable?
“Put filter in coffee pot”
Um… I don’t think that’s going to work out very well for you. But hey, everyone makes coffee different.
Also forgot to put the pot in the coffee maker, so they’re gonna come back to a mess of hot water everywhere. But on the plus side, they will technically have a pot with coffee in it.
This is exactly it. And the reality is worse, because it’s not even just “get the coffee out the cupboard”, it sesrch for ten minutes for the coffee in your mess of a kitchen, eventually finding an empty packet, so you get out a new packet but have to wash the scissors to open it, then when you can’t find a a clip for the packet you decide to empty it into a old tin only to realise the tin was already full cause you did the same thing yesterday.
Wow, I’ve seen a lot of ADHD analogies over the years but I’ve never seen that hits so hard because…This is almost exactly how my brain functions.
On good days, I can just act and don’t have to think. On bad days, I involuntarily make numbered lists in my head of the steps needed to accomplish a goal and then get overwhelmed at how many steps are ahead of me.
A trick I’ve found to “harness” it is to consider how difficult the task is overall. Most of those “overwhelming” tasks are just a little bit too much but they’re several steps.
If cleaning ten dishes is twice as much as you can bear, your new goal is one. That should be only make out you at 20% overwhelmed. And hey, since your hands are wet, why not hit your limit before you take a break? And what do you know, now you’ve finished cleaning all of them.
Even that isn’t all the steps!
8a close cupboard
8b open cupboard
13a remember that I forgot to close the cupboard after step 9
15 wander off while coffee is brewing because it is taking so long
16 remember coffee 30 minutes later
I feel like with autism, every day is a bad day. Or programming, and I’m not certain those two are different.
I feel called out…
ADHD is like doing everything with your non dominant hand
I feel this but also trying to do another task at the same time and being mad at yourself for being inefficient in the execution of steps.
A strengths based perspective acknowledges that being able to identify every detail in a mundane process is a good thing. Probably a reason ADHD people excel at programming, for instance.
This is every day for me now.
Send help.
I feel this to my bones
