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    1 month ago

    Dude. For real. I can relate. But. Lets all try to approach oneself with compassion and kindness. We are human beings. And worth it. And yes i do drugs but not right now.

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        1 month ago

        I know. And i subscribed to it. But. I just realized it makes me more depressed than without Constantly browsing through this sub. Its a depression rabbit hole and it can make the pain worse in the long run, atleast for me.

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          For me it’s the place I get to say the stuff that would get the above reaction elsewhere. I have zero hope for the future and I want to be dead. I can’t do anything about it but it doesn’t mean that I don’t feel like slitting my wrists in a warm bath every moment of every day, no matter the stuff I post. Here I get to post the stuff that makes me laugh without being told to be kind to myself when I don’t deserve that kindness. And I don’t want any. I dont want a lecture on how to love myself because I don’t deserve it. I don’t want a lecture on how I do because I’m a person. You don’t know me and no truth is universal.

          Just let me fucking hate myself. Please.

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      The urge to do this is real, but talking to yourself like a kind, loving, and forgiving friend can do amazing things. You can practice by making a point of being a kind, loving and forgiving person outwardly, and one day you might just find yourself doing it internally too.

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        Careful of going too far in that direction. I can’t accomplish tasks unless I mentally bully myself into it. “Being nice to myself” ends up with me spending 3 days smoking too much and ordering too much doordash.

        I’m actually in the process of separating from my partner of 5 years now, because of this. We’re both too nice to each other and can’t push each other into accomplishing anything, and have problems self-starting without being an anxious mess about it.

        Being nice to yourself is good and right, just don’t let it get out of hand. It’s just like parenting a child, you need equal parts tender love and structure.

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        Exactly. Because when you do it outwardly you are doing it because you understand that those outward are human beings. We can be understanding and kind towards them. They were all just thrown into this strange and quirky universe and are struggeling to life their best and most meaningful lifes. Once you do that for a lil while and truly understand why its okay to be nice and compassionately in the outer world, one day you might also realize that you, yourself, your mind, your body, your conciousness, your soul, your spirit, everything in you is also a human being. Just like the outside world. And you, my friend, aswell earned the right to be treated with kindness and love, by others and even by yourself. ❤