• MissJinx@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    The funny thing is that as a woman I"m in the same situation but without the nails/lips/hair/eyelashes etc I spend all my money in crochet yarn and filament/resin for 3d print… besides the ocasional new hobby

    As I got broke I learned to do those things at home.

      • MissJinx@lemmy.world
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        3 days ago

        Well I don’t do it because I don’t really care. I work from home and when I need to go out I use sticker nails. They work wonders for up do 5 days if they are short enough and 1 pack lasts 3 different events. It works for me but it’s not for everyone

        • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world
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          2 days ago

          Valid to not care!

          I have fun with my nails, I don’t see them as expected/socially required maintenance. In my field it’s actually seen as less professional to have long nails, especially in noticable polish. I get excited when I get to work from home for a week because that means I can go crazy with nails and makeup.

  • Snot Flickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    5 days ago

    In a world that absolutely judges you based on your looks, is something that makes you look good really a “bad” investment?

    This kind of shit could possibly make the difference between being hired at a job or not, as wild as that is to say.

    This is also part of why many people were enamored with the idea of remote work and not needing to have a webcam. The idea that maybe, just maybe, they wouldn’t be judged by their looks in a job interview but instead judged by their skills and abilities.

    Further, when the majority of people cannot afford the basics (recent numbers put it at 68% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck), is it really their fault they cannot save? What kind of society are we creating when we are effectively telling the lower classes that they deserve no kindness, no pampering, no self-fulfillment? “Fuck getting that coffee, you could buy a house if you didn’t!” type bullshit that is totally untrue.

    • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world
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      4 days ago

      You 100% are judged on your looks. As someone who’s assigned female though, and usually lets interviewers read them as such initially, I have something to add.

      There’s a VERY specific type of look women have to have in order to be seen as professional. You have to be as flawless as possible, but you also have to be understated. Any ‘fun’ type of femininity is looked down on. The long lashes, long nails and red lips definitely fall in that category. ‘Professional’ for women means you have to spend a lot of time and money on skin, makeup, jewelry, nails, hair, clothing, but you can’t have fun with it.*

      Personally I’m in stem academia, where it’s expected that you look like you don’t spend any time on your appearance at all. Otherwise it’ll be assumed you can’t keep up with the men. Still can’t have, for example, body hair though.

      *Unless you happen to have fun with nude colours and understated jewelry and fashion. Nothing wrong with that!

    • Unpigged@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      5 days ago

      I would challenge the statement that half meter long nails and three liters of Botox and fillers in one face are far beyond the ‘self fulfillment’ and is rather a (very, very bad) marketing attempt.

      If you decide to use your last money to stroke own ego and look like a porn star, that’s on you.

      • Snot Flickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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        5 days ago

        Thanks for the “poor people shouldn’t be allowed any luxuries” speech and proving my point.

        Because clearly it’s fine for the rich to do this, because they spend their money wisely, right? It’s not a completely broken ass system that harms the poor for anything they buy to indulge themselves, right?

        • Farid@startrek.website
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          5 days ago

          I don’t think the point of their comment was “poor people shouldn’t have luxuries”. Stupid actions are stupid, regardless. But when a rich person buys a sports car it’s just regular stupid, and when somebody spends their entire savings on a sports car and starves later, that’s extra stupid, because priorities. Everybody is free to do whatever, but it’s important to admit when we do something stupid.