Hi!
I’m autistic (diagnosed) and we (I + partner) think my partner is too(undiagnosed). From time to time, when my partner get overstimulated, they go non-verbal.
It is something that does not happen very often(the non-verbal bit) so they feel a bit unsure how to handle it. Especially as I am the first person who has been accepting of them going non-verbal.
I have never experienced it myself, but I want to help them feel more comfortable. I have no issue with them going non verbal, but they can get frustrated about going non verbal.
Do you have any advice for them and/or me?
Thank you in advance
In my experience becoming non-verbal may also depend on who you’re with. It might be that your partner goes non-verbal with other people first and you last (since you are the most accepting of this).
If you’re able to speak for your partner in those situations (I suggest discussing how they should signal to you that this is needed, plus in what situations it would be appropriate) that can be a big help.
Also, as a couple of other commenters have mentioned, look into other forms of communication. Texting or email is often still possible if not too overwhelmed, so again discuss with your partner - perhaps there is a shorthand set of messages or emojis they can use when they’re struggling to communicate that will allow them to convey what’s happening and what they need.
Thanks for the advice. I’ll have a chat with them about some kind of comunication for if they need help in public.