cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/31087858

I am 28 yo, my husband is 31 and we got married three months ago. We live in France which might help with context. We just bought a flat and my dad was over from Germany to help us move some furnitures. Yesterday we went on a pedal boat at the lake to relax a bit, enjoy the sun and relax after all the efforts. My husband and my dad jumped in the water in their boxer shorts and kept saying how nice the water was. I just had my dress on and wasn’t planning to swim so I was a bit frustrated, and my husband told me I should remove my dress and join them. I said no. We then ate some snacks and drank some more (quite a lot actually) and then i mentioned again that I wish i had brought a bikini to swim and tan. Again he told me that there is no big deal and I should remove my dress. I gave it some thought and then decided to remove my dress indeed and to tan at the front of the small boat. A couple of hours after we went back home and my husband said he is super surprised that I « showed my tits » to my dad and that he would have never thought i would remove my dress if I didn’t have a bra on. He also said my thong was way too small. The thing is, he for sure would have guessed I had no bra when he told me to remove my dress, and I always wear this type of thong, so I feel he is unfair. He didn’t push me down or anything, but just mentioning that he is surprised leaves me a bitter taste. Also, he claims my dad was taking photos of the lake and the landscape but did so only when I was titties out, and he thinks for sure my dad now has photos of my tits on his phone. I’m totally lost and would love some opinion please