Testosterone is a hell of a drug. I’ve known a few guys who have had at least one gf they only stayed with for the sex and were just putting up with her the rest of the time. Those…generally aren’t very good or healthy relationships. Most of them eventually get out of that mindset and (at least try to) find someone they like being with first and also want to fuck besides.
But then my wife acts shocked that a bunch of women she works with talk like they don’t even like their husbands. All I can think is why marry them then?
So… more deceit? I’ve had uhmmm enough contact with all sexes in my time, and found “a relationship is a means to an end” type behavior in too many of my fellow humans. Also when they will not stop sliding into shittier and shittier behavior it usually means they were shitty from the start, but their mask is slipping.
Still amazes me, the many, many people seeing felationships as purely transactional.
Not always deceit. A lot of these guys don’t go into this with the intent to do this, it’s just sorta something that happens as they age, and get disaffected/dissatisfied with life in general, and their wife ends up bearing a lot of the bullshit from that. Not an excuse, it’s still them being fucking awful people, but they didn’t go into the relationship intending to be the husband who’s wife does literally everything, while they sit on their ass, and be distant.
There are absolutely pure personality disordered men out there that do, in fact, do this type of thing with intention.
Testosterone is a hell of a drug. I’ve known a few guys who have had at least one gf they only stayed with for the sex and were just putting up with her the rest of the time. Those…generally aren’t very good or healthy relationships. Most of them eventually get out of that mindset and (at least try to) find someone they like being with first and also want to fuck besides.
But then my wife acts shocked that a bunch of women she works with talk like they don’t even like their husbands. All I can think is why marry them then?
Often times their husbands were different before their marriage, and probably for a while afterwards, then they slowly got shittier, and shittier
So… more deceit? I’ve had uhmmm enough contact with all sexes in my time, and found “a relationship is a means to an end” type behavior in too many of my fellow humans. Also when they will not stop sliding into shittier and shittier behavior it usually means they were shitty from the start, but their mask is slipping.
Still amazes me, the many, many people seeing felationships as purely transactional.
Edit: lol, the typo stays.
Not always deceit. A lot of these guys don’t go into this with the intent to do this, it’s just sorta something that happens as they age, and get disaffected/dissatisfied with life in general, and their wife ends up bearing a lot of the bullshit from that. Not an excuse, it’s still them being fucking awful people, but they didn’t go into the relationship intending to be the husband who’s wife does literally everything, while they sit on their ass, and be distant.
There are absolutely pure personality disordered men out there that do, in fact, do this type of thing with intention.