• pixxelkick@lemmy.world
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    17 hours ago

    And if a 10 year old is perfectly capable of walking to school (literally according to everyone), a 7 year old with their 10 year old brother should also be perfectly fine walking TWO BLOCKS without the worry of being killed by a driver.

    …No…

    A 10 year old is not old enough to be responsible for a 7 year old, full stop. Most experts consider around 12 to 13 the minimum maturity for a child to be capable of being responsible for another child. 10 is definitely too young to be looking after another kid, wtf are you talking about.

    I really hope you don’t have kids…

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      8 hours ago

      The experts say:

      National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (UK)

      Every child is different – but some schools advise children under 8 shouldn’t walk home without an adult or older sibling. SOURCE

      Ottawa Safety Council (Walk Alone Program, Canada)

      … a good guideline for starting to think about letting your child walk alone is age 10. SOURCE

      American Academy of Pediatrics (USA)

      Children usually are ready to walk to school without an adult when they are in fifth grade or around 10 years old. SOURCE

      They also put this poster together:

      Every country has the same general consensus.

      I really hope you don’t have kids…

      Kids and grandkids. And I was also once a kid with a younger sibling. And I see young kids walking to our local school on a regular bases.

      If someone is still walking their teenager to school, they should probably stop 😮

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        5 hours ago

        Kids shouldn’t be raising kids.

        Fuck cars, but 10 year old children shouldn’t have to be responsible for other children. They shouldn’t have any responsibilities yet.

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          I agree that kids shouldn’t be raising kids.

          But these kids were simply walking a few hundred meters from the store to their home in broad daylight, while on the phone with their father, and were old enough to be doing so.

          This would be considered completely normal in any other country.

          It’s also important to note that I don’t believe any city, state, or country has minimum age laws for kids to walk. Staying at home alone or in a car? Yes, but not walking (or playing outdoors, or riding a bike, etc.)

          So for the courts to charge the parents with child neglect and manslaughter seems wildly unbalanced.

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            4 hours ago

            A 10 year old is not old enough to be responsible for a 7 year old, so no, they weren’t old enough to walk home together. The 10 year old walking by themselves would have been safe, adding a 7 year old made the situation unsafe.

            The dirty secret of the capitalist nuclear family is kids are always raising kids while the parents are busy at work or doing housework or struggling to recover from work. It’s not really the parents’ fault.

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              We obviously have different perspectives, and experiences, but maybe we can distill this.

              Say your property was massive. Would you be OK allowing a 10 and 7 year old play together, or would you want an adult to be there?

              I think most people would be OK with that, even in a much smaller front yard, or a cul de sac, or park.

              Assuming no predators (humans or animals), the only real concern is cars. And it’s maddening that we won’t allow kids to be kids because of cars in any given community.

              Just the other day, there was a story if a teenager getting hit and killed by a car on school property. Cars are the problem. Nearly 100% of the time.

              And it’s not the parents or kids’ fault that they want to interact with their community outside of a vehicle. We are punishing the wrong people, in my opinion.

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        5 hours ago

        Reread what you wrote.

        A 10 year old being able to walk home is not the same as that 10 year old also being responsible for a 7 year old

        This isn’t rocket science.

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          Of course, there are always special circumstances when a child should have constant adult supervision (developmental delays, medical needs, etc.), but this wasn’t the issue here.

          But according to experts, if younger children (under 8) should be with an adult or older sibling, and if 10 is old enough to walk alone, then 7 with a 10 year old is fine to walk 300m home. It would make both kids safer and more visible, since they are in a “group”.

          If the kid was 4 or 5, then that would be different, for sure.

          But why is blame being shifted onto the victim here?

          There is no reason whatsoever that an older kid and their sibling shouldn’t be able to safely walk two blocks to their home.

          This wouldn’t even be a topic for discussion anywhere outside of the united states or for anyone who was a kid before the 90s.

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        5 hours ago

        “Should be able to” doesn’t mean jack shit in terms of fault here.

        The reality is, it wasnt safe. Yeah, it would be nice if it was safe.

        But it wasn’t safe, and any parent that isn’t a negligent idiot would know it’s not safe, this is literally the Fuck Cars lemmy, so you should know how dangerous a 4 lane road is.

        And thus you should know not to let your kids out unsupervised near one.

        I don’t give a shit how safe we would like ot to be, the functional inference of "was this mother negligent or not* isn’t based off how safe we’d like it to be

        It’s functional of how safe/dangerous it actually is at the time.

        It’s like if a mother let’s her kids play unsupervised in a fucking hurricane and you try and argue “well there shouldn’t be a hurricane”

        No one should give a shit, there very clearly, obviously, and demonstratebly was a fucking hurricane, so don’t fucking let your kids play in it. Don’t be a fucking dumb ass, supervise your children in potentially dangerous situations.

        If this was some like a quiet neighborhood 1.5 lane sleepy street I’d be on the mom’s side more here.

        But it was a fucking 4 lane busy road

        Yes, that should be obviously negligent behavior to literally anyone with 2 braincells to rub together.

        Fuck cars, but also fuck negligent parents that let their kids play near fucking traffic.