[Real names will not be used].

Okay, so I kind of want other opinions. My (24F) sister (14F) has a boyfriend Dominic (16M).

Dominic’s last relationship was with a guy named James (16FTM). However, James used to be a girl called “Jacqueline”.

I feel a lot of sympathy towards Dominic. After all, James cheated on him with other men and such. He also bullied Dominic when they were dating and after they broke up before Dominic blocked James.

However, James is trying to tell my sister that Dominic is transphobic. To be honest, I can see where James is coming from even though I don’t know him and sympathize with Dominic.

James says that Dominic doesn’t care and refuses to call James by his preferred name, and instead used she/her pronouns and refers to him as Jacqueline.

Dominic says that it’s because James bullies him. He says he’s not transphobic and he also seems to call every other person by their preferred name/pronouns, but doesn’t care about James’s.

My sister didn’t know what to do and just blocked James, but she and Dominic’s friend agree that it’s bad that Dominic calls him “Jacqueline”.

I think that Dominic is hurt and that hurt people hurt people. I also believe James is a bully who cheated on Dominic, though I don’t know James, but I still think he deserves respect.

James is not completely innocent and neither is Dominic, but James is a human being worthy of respect and Dominic struggles with empathy and understanding trans people.

  • kelpie_returns@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Both are assholes in different ways. James has proved that he doesn’t deserve respect from Dom, so Dom is acting accordingly. But at the same time, Dom needs to find a healthier way to express that grievance, if not move on altogether. I’m sure it’s not doing him any good lingering on James’ jilting.

    Either way, James should not be a welcome person or idea in any of yalls lives at this point.

    Edit: also, did you just refer to literal children as “men” or is James involved with some genuine creepy mfs?? If it’s the latter, something needs to be done about that ASAP, dude