For me Its quite simple. My brain decided it. Literally. The days I found out I’m trans, my brain would do this weird thing, where I could think about completely different stuff and suddenly my now chosen name would “fly” into my mental Field of View, like an asteroid in star wars or so. I told that name a close friend and 4 weeks later when we went to the club together I told him, that I will stick with it, because I didnt had a better idea (and it was the only name I really felt comfortable with).
I removed the last 2 letters from my deadname
It’s sort of the femme version of my given name. There’s a lot of history in my family with that name that I do appreciate and value and want to feel connected to. I did a bunch of research into the names and language of where my family originated and found my new name and instantly fell in love with it. I remember sobbing after writing it down for the first time.
swapnote girl is adorable and always stuck with me
Video game player, thru many (mmo)rpg genre, had to make many fantasy names. Went known thru most common one, then picked some irl name that was similar. (not related to my lemmy username).
Codsworth from fo4 could say certain prerecorded pc names. Thus, I found out i preferred the name Assface
It was my FFXIV character’s name first.
I used it since I was 13 on IRC ““catfishing””, well it was not catfishing actually, it was me expressing how I wanted to live, but I didn’t realised at that time. Then, I came out at 27 and remembered those days and rescued the name.
For a while when I was a kid I wondered what my name would be if I chose it myself and that was the only one that felt like it fit. Totally forgot about it until after my egg shattered and realized that it’s gender-neutral and I really like the cutesy nickname/diminutive forms
I new my name 7 years before I new I was trans, I already ordered stuff on that name and my whole online persona was built around it. I even named my cat that. Even before I was out to myself I listened to that name way better than my dead name.
I was chatting about names with my wife and she suggested it. Tried it out, it fit, and now I’m legally stuck with it :3
I kept my name. It’s unisex, and a search of it on LinkedIn actually shows like a 70-30 split of female to male respectively. I’m comfortable with it and used to it and, living in the US rn, I don’t want to deal with all the name change issues.
Ayy, samesies. I love my name, and like you said, it’s a very common female name. There’s also a certain sense of power that comes from being un-deadnameable.
My government name is 99% masc, but I only hear it at work and it isn’t worth the hassle of changing it. All my mates and friends just call me “Cat”.
read a cute reddit story where person asked mom to rename after transition.
That honestly took me over 6 months. I tried a number of names on for size, but none felt quite right. The ones that felt right were in use by close family or friends. The one I really wanted is used by both my ex-wifes, so that would’ve been weird for the kids even if they’re not kids anymore.
It was much easier picking out names for the kids actually. Otherwise I followed the advice I got to take a name that is sorta common in my age group so I went through all the lists multiple times until I decided. I now officially have a girl’s name, even if I’m nowhere near passing. It isn’t as bad in my country as in many others and I must say it went a lot better than I expected, but I’m still proud of myself. 😊
I wish I could come up with another name. For some reason, it just feels weird and almost wrong to name myself. That isn’t judgement against people who have chosen their own names, it’s my own awful hangups and I wish I had the confidence to pick something for myself and own it. So I guess I need a group of friends that know me and can help me pick one.
My real name is gendered af. And even before this awakening, I disliked it because everywhere I go, there’ll always be other people with the same name as me. It’s like my parents’ generation just had no fucking imagination or originality. And it’s people being named basic shit that leads to all of the Tragedeighs in the next generation as over compensation.
I know this struggle! I feel odd naming myself, but those close to me also refuse to offer a suggestion. They all say “that’s too personal a thing for me to choose in your place” or “I’m already bad at naming things so, no”. I suppose that I will have to hear it for the rest of my life, so I might as well like it!
I saw someone else here mention that they came up with a short list of names, then got friends to rate them or vote on them and narrow it down from there. Might be an idea. Thinking about it, you can’t really blame people for not wanting to make that decision for someone else. Although it would make it easier lol.
I just haven’t found a name I’d like to use, but my irl name is at least 98% male. Part of the problem is my name was chosen to be really similar to my non-birth-mom’s name and I like that. At least there are some spellings that are used by females, even if those are uncommon, but the pronunciation doesn’t change at all and I’ve used such as a in-game name before egg cracked. My name is relatively common from my generation. Not super-common, but also I was in a classroom once with like 5 students and three of us shared the name. Been over three years tho and still not even an inkling of an idea for alternatives.
It’s a name that I saw online a handful of times and always thought was incredibly cool. Then came across it again recently trying to pick a name, while I was looking through related names, and it immediately became a top candidate. And it also works well in both German and English which is also something I wanted.
