When you try to ignore someone because they are being an ass while drunk, and try to sleep on the couch, and they yell at you to get in bed, then they bash you in the back of the head with there with their phone while you are laying their facing the other direction, they say, “call the cops, they’ll arrest you”. Is it true. Could be. Im back on the couch and under control but man could I use someone to talk to. Im so tired of being abused and treated like shit. I know I don’t deserve this shit, but fuck does it hurt and I won’t let myself yell. I won’t allow myself to fall to that level. If they want to be that way, that’s them. But I need to be better. Yes, I know I’m dumb. 35 years dumb lol
I’m bad at kind words so forgive me for their absence here
My friend was in a similar situation and unfortunately was married with kids. I said “was” because they’re finally divorced now.
She wasn’t physically abusive when they were dating but she got close and I regret not telling him the same thing:
Call your engagement off and run. You don’t want the life that it will bring. Do it sooner than later.
It will suck for awhile but the short term pain of leaving is nothing compared to the long term pain of staying.
You can’t fix her. And that’s not your fault