When you try to ignore someone because they are being an ass while drunk, and try to sleep on the couch, and they yell at you to get in bed, then they bash you in the back of the head with there with their phone while you are laying their facing the other direction, they say, “call the cops, they’ll arrest you”. Is it true. Could be. Im back on the couch and under control but man could I use someone to talk to. Im so tired of being abused and treated like shit. I know I don’t deserve this shit, but fuck does it hurt and I won’t let myself yell. I won’t allow myself to fall to that level. If they want to be that way, that’s them. But I need to be better. Yes, I know I’m dumb. 35 years dumb lol
Whether or not the cops arrest you depends entirely on how they are approached. Unfortunately, they vary from town to town and maybe even shift to shift.
Thankfully, the police probably aren’t the only option available.
If your domestic partner is violently abusing you, you are a victim of domestic violence. There are social services in virtually any country where it’s not legal to just slap your spouse, to help stop the slapping to stop. Places to start looking:
All of the above should either have someone they can refer you to, or be able to help you themselves. If you have a lawyer on retainer you definitely should call them first, and if you have decent health care your GP doctor or an urgent care should be able to check how badly you’re hurt and document the violence.
If all else fails, go to your local police department and tell them you want to report a crime. Or just leave and crash with family or a friend.
If your partner hits you and tells you that you’d be arrested if you call the cops on them, they are telling you that they will do it again and lie about it.
Thank you for the heartfelt comment. It means a lot. It may have not meant much when you were typing, but it means a bunch.