If you don’t tell the people why you are leaving, they don’t know what is going on. And this applies to businesses it applies to stores it applies to companies. It even applies to social media accounts. It even applies to your friends and family.
If you tell people why you are leaving, at least they can make a decision if they want to change or not. If the company or whatever is seeing less people coming in, but nobody will say why they’re leaving. How can they make the change?
There’s no realistic way that a manager or a host or the owner of a business or whatever could realistically ask every single person who comes through the door hey are you happy? Are you coming back? Is there anything we should change? That’s not real.
If you aren’t happy and you don’t say what is making you unhappy. Then that’s on you.
Not the business or the social media site or whatever.
They can’t read minds.
If you tell people why you are leaving, at least they can make a decision if they want to change or not.
Why would I care f they “change”? If I want to leave, I’ll leave … what other people do doesn’t really change anything about that.
I only really see that statement applying to only specific situations such as:
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Social media - like a big facebook group for example, where people don’t really know each other personally. No one will really care if you leave unless you’re a moderator or popular member that everyone recognizes.
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Big gatherings or parties - If it’s a big party and you don’t know everyone or you’re not really personally acquainted to the host, I don’t really think it’s necessary to announce you’re leaving.
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Please do:
- Announce that you are leaving
- Make your way awkwardly around the party as I excitedly maintain eye contact
- Give me a big warm hug because I love youIf a company or person is open to feedback and change, they will already have policies or behavior to reflect that. People who want to improve are responsible for cultivating an environment where honest peer review is possible, because at the opposite end of the spectrum, fear of retribution will motivate people to quietly leave any situation.
If that data wasn’t farmed, added to databases, sold to third parties, or used to build/add to profiles, I would probably do exit interviews.
Part of it depends why I’m leaving. Do I care about the people I’m leaving? If not, why spend the energy interacting with them?
If you don’t hate them, why can’t you spare a few seconds saying goodbye to people? Are you that badly socialized or does regular human interaction drains/scares/annoys you that much?
The premise of the post is that, by saying that I’m leaving, I’m telling them why so that they can change. That has the energy of an old person yelling at the retail staff why they are never going to come back to shop there again.
A lot of people don’t respond well to criticism. A lot of people aren’t going to change. For some, it may be hard for them to fully understand why I didn’t like the interaction. At that point, it is easier just to let it go.
It’s basically an exit interview, so yeah, they’re helpful feedback.
I think a lot of the hate the “I’m leaving” posts get is because they’re often expressing a lot of pent-up frustrations that just kind of come out in an “absolute candor”, tactless way. Not unlike some IRL exit interviews lol.
Upvoted for being an unpopular opinion!
Fuck companies. They could create good working environments if they wanted to. Pro tip: they don’t give a shit.
👻 I love my predilection to disengage from encounters silently. I find it empowering. Thank you for your unpopular opinion!
