Saw a comic recently about this topic and got me thinking. I know what “the talk” is about since it appears in so many media but I don’t ever recall having such an experience personally. Did you? What was it like?

I was a late 80s kid, just for context. As far as my experience goes, my parents were very open about sex as a natural process for reproduction. They answered openly any questions I had whenever I had them, keeping to the bare minimum necessary but never avoiding the topic- also never using metaphors as a substitute for plain facts ie. “the birds and the bees”.

So at about age 5 or so I was already aware about how reproduction worked on animals, us humans included. As I kept growing up of course I kept connecting the dots on any social aspects of sex and relationships (ie that is supposed to be pleasant, that people do it even if they’re not planning to have babies, etc) but I never had a moment of shocking realization regarding sex. I often found it stupid how some of my classmates would giggle or lower their voice when talking about anything sexual like, well, like it’s a taboo. And I was often disappointed at how much of what my classmates knew wasn’t exactly true, which at the time I chalked to their stupidity, although obviously it wasn’t their fault. They were misinformed.

By the time kids got to sex ed in highschool they already had their facts pretty much right though, fortunately.

So I’m curious about your experiences about this while growing up. Was yours similar to mine or did you sit through some awkward conversations? How did you feel about it all?

  • Mothra@mander.xyzOP
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    7 days ago

    Did you resent the avoidance at any point? Also, did you have questions before getting sex ed talks that went unanswered? I guess that’s what I’m curious to find out, from those who didn’t have any talk or had it too late, what did they do before hitting the first school lesson on the subject.

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      Oh, absolutely.

      They pounded sexual discomfort into me with religion, and I could have had a lot more sex and enjoyed my life more when I was younger if they hadn’t done that. I also would have appreciated knowing more about how sex needs to be for a woman to experience pleasure and more information about body language and consent.