• Ardycake@lemm.ee
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    6 days ago

    It’s funny, I has this exact scenario play out with a guy friend in college. It ruined our friendship. We were friends for maybe two years at that point and I was taken aback because I never saw him as anything but a friend and he even had a girlfriend at the time!

    After that exchange, he got so awkward the friendship fell apart. We still had classes together but he avoided me and I was not pressed to be near him, so we never saw each other again after that semester.

  • ඞmir@lemmy.ml
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    7 days ago

    So many comments giving OP advice on how to get into a relationship with the girl. Has a single person here, at all, considered that maybe, just maybe, OP genuinely didn’t want a relationship with this girl…?

    I also think deflecting with “nah you couldn’t” would be funny in the right context. Follow it with a joke about increasing her powerlevel first and you’re good

  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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    7 days ago

    There is a very fitting song for this.

    Garbage - Stupid Girl

    Stupid Girl Lyrics

    [Verse 1]

    You pretend you’re high

    Pretend you’re bored

    Pretend you’re anything

    Just to be adored

    And what you need

    Is what you get

    [Pre-Chorus]

    Don’t believe in fear

    Don’t believe in faith

    Don’t believe in anything

    That you can’t break

    [Chorus]

    You stupid girl (Ah)

    You stupid girl (Ah)

    All you had, you wasted (Ah)

    All you had, you wasted (Ah)

    [Verse 2]

    What drives you on (Drives you on)

    Can drive you mad (Drive you mad)

    A million lies to sell yourself

    Is all you ever had

    [Pre-Chorus]

    Don’t believe in love

    Don’t believe in hate

    Don’t believe in anything

    That you can’t waste

    [Chorus]

    You stupid girl (Ah)

    You stupid girl (Ah)

    Can’t believe you fake it (Ah)

    Can’t believe you fake it (Ah)

    [Instrumental Break]

    [Pre-Chorus]

    Don’t believe in fear

    Don’t believe in pain

    Don’t believe in anyone

    That you can’t tame

    Basically, if this is a representative sample of this girl’s personality …

    (huge if there, this is a single 4chan post lol)

    … then she is a textbook narcissist, potentially to the point of being diagnosable with NPD if she doesn’t grow out of this attitude, get a reality check that actually sinks into the subconscious.

    A spoiled, pampered brat whose never been told no, who never gets any real, meaningful interaction or validation, and tries to fill that void with a grandiose self image, absurd overconfidence and privelege.

    Angelica from Rugrats.

    …And my take here would be the same if the genders/sexes were reversed, or some other combo.

    It is pretty not normal for anybody to have that kind of interaction with anybody else, to just boisterously state they could have ‘insert random person’, then have rando anon just flatly reply ‘sorry not interested’, … and then throw a giant hissy fit.

    I am seriously hoping this interaction occures between 12 or 14 year olds, but looking at the horror kaleidoscope that is social media these days?

    Yeah, could be anybody, any age, at this point.

            • chingadera@lemmy.world
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              8 days ago

              I was just goofin, I don’t have any sort of insight into that, I just saw gay and needed to add fake. It was important for dumb brain

              • Geetnerd@lemmy.worldEnglish
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                8 days ago

                No problem. I do the same, sometimes I make a joke that falls flat, but sounded hilarious in my head.

                Have a good one, thanks for the thoughtful response.

        • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
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          8 days ago

          I’m not sure about that. One of the gay dudes on our discord is constantly making shit up stories based off crap he read on the internet he thinks the rest of us have somehow not seen already.

  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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    8 days ago

    I mean, obviously fictitious and elatedly happy

    That being said, there really are people like that. I’ve been in that situation, and I’ve seen it happen plenty. Maybe not those exact words, but sometimes , yes “I could have you if I wanted”

    There really are people that are both so arrogant as to believe they’re that “good”, and so narcissistic that whether or not you’re interested doesn’t matter.

    Like, I’m not some kind of super studly dude. I’m big, and strong, but I’m also hairy, balding, have always had at least a little belly on me, wear glasses, and have a round face, so I don’t have those chiseled features that folks get wet over. But I do pretty damn good. My kind of look has a degree of popularity, and the mind inside the body makes it work. So this isn’t some kind of situation where everything is chasing me.

    That being said, it is really annoying how often some shitty excuse for a human being has assumed that I would just jump in the sack with them, much less anything more. And it isn’t even the stereotypical “hot babes” either. Just women that assume that because they have a pussy, a guy is going to fall into the damn thing. You kinda expect narcissism when someone is on the prowl, looking for hookups and arm candy. But when you’re at a casual dinner party, and they’re coming at you with that kind of thinking, it’s extra extra. I mean, it isn’t always women, but the women tend to be more insistent, and more about demeaning you than men are.

    When it’s guys, you make it clear you’re hetero, and it’s “oh, well then” and it almost always ends there, or with a simple “if you tried this, that might change”, and then they’re done.

    But the women that think that way? It’s like they pin their whole sense of self on the idea that they can have any guy, no matter what. And, if you aren’t the classically handsome dude, you’re insulting them by just refusing to agree that if they wanted you, they could. Like, motherfucker, you’re insulting me just by saying that you don’t want me, and you’re adding in the assumption that my dick is in control of me? GTFO.

    You know what’s funny though? Only ever had one stripper try that shit. Bounced gay bars and titty bars off and on for years. You’d think strippers would be more prone to that kind of thing than other professions. Not for me. I would get the whole “it’s a shame you’re such a good guy, I’d ruin you” here and there, bit that’s a whole different thing entirely.

    Ran into it most with nurses, but I worked in that field more than as a bouncer, so they’re disproportionately represented in the people I would have extended interactions with.

    I eventually learned to just say okay and walk away. That kind of thinking, there’s no point in arguing, and you can’t change the subject, so you just leave.

        • [email protected]@sh.itjust.works
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          8 days ago

          This story is fictional, but it seems as though anon was disinterested in the easy lay, which we as the audience are meant to derive satisfaction from.

        • PhilipTheBucket@ponder.cat
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          8 days ago

          You guys are SO FRICKIN’ WEIRD.

          I am extremely weird, man, I’m not trying to judge someone in any sense for being weird or asocial or whatever. But what sort of porn logic is this where someone’s opposite-sex friend is lightly flirting with him and the widely upvoted reactions range from “SHE’S AN EMOTIONAL TRAINWRECK RUN AWAY SHE DESERVES TO SUFFER” all the way to “FUCK HER, FUCK HER BRAINS OUT, SHE WANTS IT!”

          It’s not even clear that she likes him for real. Sometimes friends interact with each other. Jesus Christ man. This is a fairly normal type of human interaction, not anything advanced or sophisticated, and the majority Lemmy opinion is apparently just a big sperglord house of horrors.

          • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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            7 days ago

            This is not a normal kind of human interaction, on the girl’s part.

            It very strongly indicates she is a spoiled brat, a narcissist.

            If you think this kind of interaction is normal… well I see two possible explanations:

            You are also a narcissist and that’s why you think this is normal.

            OR

            You are surrounded by narcissists who have gaslit you into thinking this is normal, and you haven’t had too many regular interactions with non narcissists.

            Also, I don’t see anywhere near as many total upvotes for ‘she’s into you dude, frost that cupcake!’ as I do for ‘this is the biggest red flag imaginable, let me write a short essay explaining why’

            In fact, yeah, I don’t see a single comment advocating the anon dive into her… affairs, over this.

          • x00z@lemmy.worldEnglish
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            8 days ago

            Back in the good ol’ days we understood that the internet is all lies and only exists for porn.

          • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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            7 days ago

            there’s no context, that’s the problem. Depending on their friendship this could be very normal, or it could be very weird, without any context this is batshit insane.

          • DontMakeMoreBabies@lemm.ee
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            6 days ago

            ಠ_ಠ

            Borderline rape? Really?

            People say shit like this and I wonder how much meat space experience they have with… really, anything.

            Anyone else read “The Anxious Generation” yet?

            • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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              6 days ago

              Borderline rape? Really?

              if you logically extend it into the future, where this would be an actual thing that actually happened, yes at some point it would become rape, it’s just not really a thing you should argue.

              People say shit like this and I wonder how much meat space experience they have with… really, anything.

              it doesn’t really matter, if you’re saying that you could have sex with anybody specifically one person, and that person doesn’t consent (which is a very real possibility) then at that point you would necessitate violating consent.

              It’s just not a healthy way to think about sex.

              Anyone else read “The Anxious Generation” yet?

              unfortunately not, i’m busy watching the downfall of the US society atm, so.

  • 5714@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    8 days ago

    The core concept of the problem is not related to gender, it’s just that in societies highly differentiated by gender people have different means.

    Talk to male friend

    He randomly says if he wanted me he could have me

    I tell him no he couldn’t

    He gets really mad and says he could easily have me if he wanted to, practically has a fit of rage

    Changed pronouns exemplifies that that the core concept of this is that “having someone” is supposedly less about consent and more about compliance to standardised appearance (aka so-called “objective” beauty). If you have a lot of means (e.g. male or wealth privilege), this gets creepy real fast.

  • latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    8 days ago

    I don’t care if this makes me a bad person, I get such immense satisfaction from this kind of emotional blowout. It’s so fulfilling to see bona fide narcissists fail then go hysterical about it❤️

  • Skanky@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    The correct reply is…

    “There’s really only one way you could have me, and that is [describe whatever sort of sexual kink you’re into]. After that, I might consider it.”