• rabber@lemmy.ca
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    2 days ago

    The fact that dating apps allow you to filter by height and not weight literally says it all

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    Damn, people just straight-up don’t care about the content of an image if they see an opportunity to go on a tangent.

    I wonder how ridiculous you have to make the text- paired with a pictograph of a problematic take like the original for this one- before people realize it’s not actually repeating the original sentiment or actually saying anything at all

  • RabbitBBQ@lemmy.world
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    Dating shouldn’t be monetized. Even sending messages often requires a subscription. You’ll also notice these dating app companies own several products, like the Match Group. They buy up competitors or spam out the same software under different names with a marketing campaign to try to get people to join. Then they restrict features and charge more to maintain their position. That’s without even getting to all the data they collect and sale while also charging you a subscription. Just imagine talking to someone you want to date in real life and having a middle man come up and say, if you want to talk to them you need to give me $20 a month. All the “science” they use to connect people is just bullshit too.

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      If dating apps worked, they wouldn’t really “work” under capitalism - you’d find someone, cancel the subscription and move on.

      The only really exception is if you focus on hookups or polyamory, but het cis women tend to risk a lot more on hookups (at bare minimum pregnancy and side effects related to whatever precautions are being used to prevent it), so they aren’t going to seek them out and they tend to get flooded with low quality messages anyway.

      No matter what your age, race, gender, sex, size, you can always find a man willing to put their dick inside your orifices. Grindr works so well because it’s basically just old school cruising culture with extra frills. Match Group uses it’s monopoly to impose a dating culture that doesn’t really match with how het people form relationships.

  • Zannsolo@lemmy.world
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    Most people’s problems are shit profiles and bad swiping.

    Find/take good photos. I used photofeeler to test my photos and it helped.

    Have a decent short bio that has something the girl can bring up. Mine was my hatred of mayo, almost all my matches brought it up as a discussion point. On Bumble it was most often the ice breaker.

    Don’t swipe right on the 8/9/10s that you have zero chance at. If a girl out of your range has a profile that describes you sure swipe right otherwise don’t swipe on girls you have zero shot with. It messes your algorithm up. If you want to fantasize about hot chicks look at porn otherwise be honest about what you bring to the table and swipe in your realistic range. If you’re a 3 a 5 should be your 10.

    Advice from a decent looking (but def not hot) slightly overweight at times person, who got my fair share of dates, some hookups, and some girlfriends from online dating in a smallish dating pool.

    Met my wife randomly through a coworker 🤷‍♂️.

    • Samskara@sh.itjust.works
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      Most people’s problems are shit profiles and bad swiping.

      Most people’s problem is they do online dating.

    • irelephant [he/him]🍭@lemm.ee
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      You should read the edit.

      Edit: because a few comments make me worry that some are taking this seriously - this meme is a play on the type of hopeless dating posts you might find in less healthy corners of the internet. The joke is a suggestion that the real problem is that one man in the image has some sort of arrow-attracting superpower.

      • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world
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        Ignoring the issue with jokes doesn’t help anyone.

        Mocking incels doesn’t make them better.

        It feels good though.

        This is reddit behavior.

  • Maggoty@lemmy.world
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    Buddy, the edit doesn’t help. Repeating propaganda or misinformation and saying but this instance is satirical doesn’t help. You’re still just spreading their talking points for them.

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    Society is borked in many ways, and dating sites often reinforce this with their policies.

    The Wikipedia article about online dating tells that typical (I assume: card stack, like / dislike) dating sites cause different genders to adopt different strategies:

    Men liked a large proportion of the profiles they viewed, but received returning likes only 0.6% of the time; women were much more selective but received matches 10% of the time. Men received matches at a much slower rate than women. Once they received a match, women were far more likely than men to send a message, 21% compared to 7%, but they took more time before doing so.

    By sending out questionnaires to frequent Tinder users, the researchers discovered that the reason why men tended to like a large proportion of the women they saw was to increase their chances of getting a match. This led to a feedback loop in which men liked more and more of the profiles they saw while women could afford to be even more selective in liking profiles because of a greater probability of a match.[15]

    P.S.

    My biggest peeve is that the monopolist Match Group (runs Tinder, bought and ruined OkCupid, etc) and its nearest competitor Bumble have both adopted a card stack system that makes searching impossible. They also won’t display any statistics to a user about the number of people who saw their profile - keeping their customer in perfect darkness.

    In most fields of life, a customer would not be satisfied with this kind of shit. A company advertising their product would demand instant feedback about the number and profile of people viewed their ad, where they came from, how long they browsed, etc.

    Basically, we are all getting scammed by a few monopolists, who are actively ruining people’s ability to find partners. I would support a politician who promises to let the best university in the country to build a non-profit dating site.

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      What is okcupid like nowadays? I found a partner there like 7 years ago and out of all the dating sites I’ve tried, it was the best by a good margin.

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        It no longer respects geographical preferences. Here in Estonia, if you go on OkCupid from Tallinn, you see about 30 Finnish people from Helsinki (across the sea, 80 km away) before you encounter a local (you also get 30 likes from Central Africa and South-East Asia).

        It also has the card stack system now.

        The question system remains and remains helpful, just the rest is broken.

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          Oh come on the lack of a stack system was such a positive. I loved how I could look over all profiles around me, see who managed to write more than 10 words about themselves and just send them a message. I guess that system just worked to well, I never felt the need to pay for anything

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    this is such an incel though. Please explain that all the girls in this image are also the same girl using the same outfit with the same hair and the same body shape.So if you revert the image to guys on the left and girls on the right it would also be true

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    To make this more accurate for modern dating apps, you should keep all the men, but only have like 3 of the women. Dating apps aren’t there to get you a match, they’re there to convince you that you will get a match…eventually. The money is in creating a feeling that doesn’t reflect reality.