This guy basically lead me on, was very flirty and then said we should grab a bite to eat sometime and ghosted me.

We didn’t have sex or anything. But I still feel like such a moron.

Like I was looking forward to it… idk why does everyone hate me

Also when he asked me what I do for a living I told him I haven’t been working and just focusing on taking a driving exam and he seemed extremely like… disappointed by that

And I told him I worked accounting before and he also seemed super unimpressed by it

Idk wtf he expects from me like do I need to be an entrepreneur or rocket scientist to be interesting?

And also like in general I felt like he kept firing off conversation topics really fast as though he got bored quickly or something

I guess he’s the type that needs to have very engaging and witty conversation the whole time and can’t just enjoy the moment for two seconds

Either way I just feel super pissed off and embarrassed. Also, I feel insecure. I don’t have many friends here but honestly after the experiences I’ve had I’m scared to go out and meet people again.

Not to mention my ex was abusive af and made sure to end things on a super bad note and tell me what a joke I am and how no one will ever put up with me for as long as he did and be as generous as he was (monetarily) and like I don’t even know why he said that cause he’s the one that broke up with me, it’s like he just wanted to stomp me when I’m down

  • jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    6 days ago

    A long time ago, I went out on a date with this woman that I knew. She was attractive and a very nice person. We had a fun date. And then, I never called her again.

    I eventually regretted that, although it took me a few years to get there. I didn’t think about her feelings being hurt at the time. It wasn’t about her at all. The problem was that I didn’t like myself very much at that point in my life and I couldn’t imagine any reason why she would like me either.

    That was a ridiculous notion considering she agreed to go out with me to begin with so she must have liked something about me. But, in the moment, my insecurities won out over logic. By the time I figured that out, it was too late for an apology.

    I’m telling you this because the truth is you have no idea why that guy ghosted you. I know it sucks and it feels shitty but there’s a very good chance it had nothing to do with you at all. Regardless of the reason, you didn’t want any part of that so he did you a favor. Even if it was done in a shitty way.