This guy basically lead me on, was very flirty and then said we should grab a bite to eat sometime and ghosted me.
We didn’t have sex or anything. But I still feel like such a moron.
Like I was looking forward to it… idk why does everyone hate me
Also when he asked me what I do for a living I told him I haven’t been working and just focusing on taking a driving exam and he seemed extremely like… disappointed by that
And I told him I worked accounting before and he also seemed super unimpressed by it
Idk wtf he expects from me like do I need to be an entrepreneur or rocket scientist to be interesting?
And also like in general I felt like he kept firing off conversation topics really fast as though he got bored quickly or something
I guess he’s the type that needs to have very engaging and witty conversation the whole time and can’t just enjoy the moment for two seconds
Either way I just feel super pissed off and embarrassed. Also, I feel insecure. I don’t have many friends here but honestly after the experiences I’ve had I’m scared to go out and meet people again.
Not to mention my ex was abusive af and made sure to end things on a super bad note and tell me what a joke I am and how no one will ever put up with me for as long as he did and be as generous as he was (monetarily) and like I don’t even know why he said that cause he’s the one that broke up with me, it’s like he just wanted to stomp me when I’m down
I don’t know you but I’m certain everyone doesn’t hate you. This guy probably doesn’t hate you.
It’s okay to feel bad about rejection. But there are other people. Sit with your feelings for a bit if it helps, but then dust yourself off. It’s going to be okay. If this guy wasn’t interested in you as you are, it wasn’t going to be a good match anyway.
Like, I have the standard set of nerd hobbies (books, video games, etc) and sometimes I go on a date and discover the other person thinks that’s gross. “Waste of time” someone said to me recently. Feels bad. But then I go on another date and the persons eyes light up as they tell me about their Path of Exile build. There’s all sorts of people. Don’t worry too much if any particular person doesn’t click with you.
I’m kind of assuming from the text that you’re young. That means lots more runway, and also your peers are probably on average inexperienced messy people. Dating and relationships are skills that improve with practice.
“Time enjoyed while being wasted, was not wasted. This conversation, I do not enjoy and it feels like a huge waste of time to spend another minute with a person like you so…bye!”