It’s that time of year again when my partner gets upset with me because I’m not the kind of person that ever wants anything…
My partner always wants this or that. They mention things they want all the time. So I write down what I hear. Gift holidays are covered easily because I try to pay attention.
I feel bad though. I know it’s hard when I don’t talk about things I want. And when asked, I don’t know what to say. It only ends up causing me anxiety.
This is so dumb. What does a person who doesn’t want things want for their birthday?
Pick something you already have and use often, like a phone charger or an office chair or a pair of shoes, and ask for a higher quality version of the same thing. Something that will last longer or be more comfortable.
Now this is a good idea. Genuine thanks!
I always go with experiences over stuff. I want to do something with the people I care about and collect memories instead of things. It gives people the freedom to be as frugal or lavish as they want and I don’t have to store or return anything.
Now this is what I’m talking about. 💯
I always ask for the same thing.
A rare steak and messy anal.
Best I can do is a meatball and an over-the-pants tugjob.
With my partner, we usually gift time/knowledge. As in, one person wants to buy something but doesn’t have the time/expertise to read up it and find the perfect thing. So the other hops in and does the research for them.
This valentine’s my partner helped me decide on a new gaming keyboard, while I got him a custom web domain and email setup.
So maybe if there’s a thing you’ve been meaning to research/buy, let your partner do it as a gift?
A pair of Calico Cut Pants
I don’t know what those are, but I did damage some pants recently which I was going to fix. But fixing things annoys the hell out of my spouse because I can usually endlessly keep things going on forever when… we could just go shopping… which would make them excited. I could use a couple t-shirts as well.
I hate shopping… and it drives me nuts that i would need to do it on my birthday… But my birthday is an opportunity to bring joy to my family. People love giving gifts!
I know this sounds all weird and backwards. I just don’t really want things, but there are things that I could use which seem mundane to me but can be fun for others to pick.
Thank you!
Still no idea what makes pants calico. Lol.
Oh u gotta watch more InThink You Should Leave.
Maybe have them donate to some charities of your choice.
Happy birthday!
Oh no no no. Lol. I think I’m all full up on Tim Robinson for a while. 🤣
Charity is a great idea, actually! Thank you.
And thanks for the birthday wishes. I didn’t think about the fact that this question actually revolves around my birthday actually happening. Was kind of hoping to just ignore that. I’m at the age where I’d like to just pretend this getting old thing isn’t truly happening. 🙃
For my birthday, I want immortality!
Food? Everybody likes food, right?
Or an experience - a trip, a night out, whatever
Consumables are great. It opens up for repeatability and the receiver is never stuck with dust collectors.
You want a fun day trip that you don’t have to plan?
I think you lifted gift giving standards way up high and your partner wants to keep up 😊
- Anything that can be consumed, eaten or drunk is a good gift.
- Tickets to some event you can both attend and spend quality time together. Maybe a concert
Yup, 100%. Consumable treats that you’d not normally buy yourself and experiences like events or lessons.
I have the same problem when I need to come up with things on the spot. So instead I keep a list that I add ideas I get for things I want over time. That way if someone asks I can show them that and I don’t have to think on the spot about what I want.
This is literally what I do for other people. Not sure why I’ve never thought of this for myself. I mean, I have to want things now and again, right? I usually don’t get those things because I ultimately don’t really care and there are more important things I need to spend money on. Budget only seems to get more tight over time.
Anyway, it will be tough to remember to do this, but I just have to remember I’m doing it for them and not me. I will be more likely to actually notate things then. This can work moving forward. Thanks!
Yeah I definitely still have problems with remembering to do it, especially if I get an idea when I’m not at a place where it’s easy to note the idea down. But even having a few things on there can be enough and sometimes help with jogging my memory about other things I wanted when it comes closer to an event.
Well, this morning I was able to get a few things down and then a few more things after that. I told my partner that I have a list for me and they got super excited.
I honestly don’t care if I ever get around to getting most of these things, but for the sake of other people doing something like this is a big deal and I love seeing their excitement.
Plus, my youngest kid said they can’t wait to get me another stuffed animal. I’m seriously hoping they can be steered towards something else that I don’t have to put on my bed to make the poor kid happy. Lol.
To list of things anything you could want:
- Goods
- Services
- Relationship time, that is your partner doing things for you,
which can be subdivided into 10 more types of wishes.
You want a 6npack of BIC medium black pens
Near perfection. 😁
If your partner is a craftsy type, you could suggest that they craft something for you. It was always those gifts that meant the most to me when I was with someone craftsy. It doesn’t have to have utility, or be perfect, it just means the world that someone spent time and thought creating something for you.
Now this is a great idea and why i asked this question in the first place! Not sure why I wasn’t thinking of it.
They once made me an incredible crocheted dice bag. It’s a crocheted bottle and cork with a baby red dragon wrapped around it protecting it. It took time and effort, looks super cool, was cheap to make, and I love it! This is the kind of thing that would make them feel great in giving and I love it too!
Win-win!
Glad I could help!
Get a hobby. You’ll always need/want stuff if you become a photographer or a fisherman or a pnp-player or a …
You want a purple rubber dildo
You know, I should have played a game where I guessed the percentage of comments that would involve some element of sexuality. Haha.
Purple is my favorite color. 😁
She might get mad if you tell her this, but maybe you want some time to yourself. It’s what I usually want on my birthday.
A cat.
Good god no. Half my family’s allergic. I’m just allergic to their nature. 🤣
In that case, a cure for allergies.
And a cat.
I’ll put it on my wish list. 🪄😺
