• Bronzie@sh.itjust.works
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    4 months ago

    Of course!
    I am on 15 week parental leave as we speak and having the time of my life changing diapers, feeding and playing with the little one.

    I didn’t co-create a child to let the misses have all the fun!!!

  • mar_k [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    4 months ago

    Back in 1982, a whopping 43% of fathers admitted they’d never changed a diaper. In recent years, that number went down to about 3%

    well damn

    • jballs@sh.itjust.works
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      4 months ago

      One of my neighbors likes to brag that he’s never changed his kid’s diaper. It’s not impressive like he thinks it is.

  • HobbitFoot @thelemmy.club
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    4 months ago

    I wonder if part of it is because more parents are parents because they chose to be. There are a lot of stories from older people where they became adults because they became parents, creating a lot of resentment.

    • Croquette@sh.itjust.works
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      4 months ago

      I spend more time with my kids because I don’t want them to live what I went through and it’s probably the same for many men.

      You are probably right that today, people ask themselves if they want kids, and why or why not. While our parents had more pressure to follow that life style, and our grand-parents had a priest coming to their home to tell them it was time to make another baby.

    • Default_Defect@midwest.social
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      3 months ago

      Is this true? Purely anecdotal, but none of the people I know in my age range had children on purpose. Most of them were an “Oops, guess we should get married then…” and THANKFULLY most of those are good parents and their marriages seem to be working out.

      Not that this is a bad thing when it works out anyway.

      • HobbitFoot @thelemmy.club
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        3 months ago

        Anecdotally, my friend groups and family were the opposite. I even know some friends has abortions because they weren’t in the right place to have a child.

        But if you look at the statistics, parents are having their first child later in life. There are also a lot more childless adults.

  • jaschen@lemm.ee
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    4 months ago

    I strive to not be like my dad and go as far as telling my siblings and wife to hit me at the hint that I sound like my dad.

  • Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de
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    4 months ago

    I cherish the times when I was off or even unemployed.

    These days a family that plays together stays together, or something. (We enjoy both video game and board game time)

    • TaintPuncher@lemmy.ml
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      4 months ago

      Hell yeah, maximum parenting 💪 barely saw my dad when I was a kid, always away on business. I work 100% remote since my first kid was born, get to spend all day every day with my kids now, never going back.

  • Cyborganism@lemmy.ca
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    4 months ago

    My dad worked overtime all the time and I barely got to spend any time with him.

    If I had kids I’d try my best not to reproduce that.