My significant other has their sibling in a different country asking for simple help. basically the sibling has a debit bank account in our country but cannot access it in their country due to location. They’re basically an independent person. A long time ago their family migrated to our country except for the sibling who stayed back because they had a relationship going. Eventually they had kids in the other country so between my significant other and the sibling there was just the past, and also being family. Recently the sibling visited and stayed near us in a city close by. They set up that bank account and got a good paying job thru their other sibling. They put some money away for their needs. However when they finally wanted to comeback they couldn’t get a plane ticket again due to the different Geo location. So be careful who you bank with. In this case Wells Fargo Bank is at the center of the drama. Friends don’t let friend bank at Wells Fargo, the asshole Bank.
Anyway, the onion peals one layer of drama and on to the next. The older sibling living nearby is the usual contact helping the remote sibling. My significant other and I are usually not at the cross hairs of the continuous mooching, begging and usual real necessities. This relationship is usually called remittance based…some rando family member of your significant other gets to have some of your hard earned money. That’s my feeling because in my side of the family we don’t have any mooching or anyone desperately asking for help and demanding bday money and Christmas allowance, hospital stays, births, deaths, shoes, roofs, clothing etc.
That’s just the circumstances revolving my relationship troubles today. The jist of the issues is mostly because my significant other keeps asking for my opinion on matters that I have no say into. Like I don’t need to stick my spoon in that fire at all. But she keeps trying.
What’s the average salary difference between both countries? I don’t consider it mooching if the amount is small time for you but two months salary for them. Its more like sharing lottery winnings.
Ah, I got interrupted so I couldn’t finish my story.
So the local sibling she has a business and money is good. Like there are no issues. The remote sibling lives in a 3rd world country vs 1st for us.
What happened is that somehow the remote sibling got the local one mighty pissed. He had applied for visa to come visit permanently by getting their residency. The older sibling wanted to finally reunite the family here vs. Having to pay $5,000.00 tickets per head every year. For my family that’s not affordable and way over the line of stupidity.
The younger remote sibling wanted to basically just visit and get residency then ho back and forth every few months as required by law. WTF? On who’s money? So the older sibling got royally pissed. They were thinking this family drain was finally over while the other sibling was just getting started.
The younger sibling fucked everything up by cheating on his partner. All the kids from the first partner and the partner are now here as residents. But the younger sibling now has little kids with a different partner so there’s the moral rub…
Do we keep funding this fucker’s yearly family travels? Now my family getting dragged into this shit pie while I’m the only bread winner. I’m not made of money.
On top of that I barely tolerate my partner because they randomly decided to triple hate my family since our wedding day. For me its a totally retarded situation. Ofcourse no! I’m not going to work getting my ass chewed by the knowledge center new millennials just to get some cheater on a plane every year to let his extra kids grow up. And that is me, I think I can totally feel like I feel about it. But for my partner, how do you not help family? Right? Yeah, get the things that don’t cost us money done…login to their stupid Wells Fargo and pay for the flight tickets. That’s logical. I would do that for my sibling so by association I would also want to give away my work in the form of plane tickets.